[Bookworm257]

Whenever I see my friend hanging with someone I don't know, and laughing etc I get jealous that they're gonna leave me or that they like this person much more than they like me.
At the slightest indication that they don't like me (they give a wrong look for a split second, even if inadvertent), I catastrophize into thinking that they secretly hate me and that they don't even want to hang out or be friends with me.
I have a fear that they're going to leave me, and this s exaverbated when they give the smallest hints of this and then I panic.
I feel guilty for these things, but I do feel them. Is something I need to talk to a profesional with or is it somewhat normal?
Thanks for listening.

[Bill3]

I think that a professional could be useful in giving you perspective as to why this is happening and how you might over time become more secure in your relationships.

[bpcyclist]

Do you mind terribly if I ask where you are sort of generally in terms of age? The reason I ask is, at least for me, my answer to your question would be a bit different if you were 19 than it would be if you were 28.

[LilyMop]

I think any relationship is difficult and it’s quite possible a lot of people feel this way in friendships. I think people are so busy and so worried about offending others and about not imposing and about what others think... that it’s getting harder to develop authentic relationships.

[Iloivar]

I don't know how normal it is, but I dont think that matters. If this is something you think has enough of a negative impact on your life, then I think it's something you should seek proffesional help with.

[sarahsweets]

Hey @Bookworm257 I hope I do not offend you. The link I shared is geared more to partner relationships but I think it can apply to friendships too.
7 Ways To Let Go Of Insecurity In Your Relationship

Originally Posted by Bookworm257

Whenever I see my friend hanging with someone I don't know, and laughing etc I get jealous that they're gonna leave me or that they like this person much more than they like me.
At the slightest indication that they don't like me (they give a wrong look for a split second, even if inadvertent), I catastrophize into thinking that they secretly hate me and that they don't even want to hang out or be friends with me.
I have a fear that they're going to leave me, and this s exaverbated when they give the smallest hints of this and then I panic.
I feel guilty for these things, but I do feel them. Is something I need to talk to a profesional with or is it somewhat normal?
Thanks for listening.

[Oldcountryphil]

Originally Posted by Bookworm257

Whenever I see my friend hanging with someone I don't know, and laughing etc I get jealous that they're gonna leave me or that they like this person much more than they like me.
At the slightest indication that they don't like me (they give a wrong look for a split second, even if inadvertent), I catastrophize into thinking that they secretly hate me and that they don't even want to hang out or be friends with me.
I have a fear that they're going to leave me, and this s exaverbated when they give the smallest hints of this and then I panic.
I feel guilty for these things, but I do feel them. Is something I need to talk to a profesional with or is it somewhat normal?
Thanks for listening.

Thank you for sharing this because I myself have the same identical situation going on with my wife. She is always gone hanging out with her friends and no time with me then I am left feeling unworthy and guilty of not being good enough for her

[Fuzzybear]

I think that if this is having a negative impact on your life a professional could help give you perspective. Also posting here or on another supportive online forum could help give you perspective. As to what is ''normal'' I can't answer that