[June55]

So many different emotions
And well the goal is still
Be grateful
Be nice
Not have opinion
Not have feelings
Be flexible
Be everything everyone else wants of you
Don’t feel
Don’t express
Know what they are thinking
Just take what gets thrown your way
Don’t fight back

[eskielover]

Wow.....not my philosophy to life.

If I end up having to accept something I don't want or like it isn't because I haven't fought against it in the first place.

You can still be grateful, nice, & flexible (called negotiations) & have your own opinion & feelings....but it does take WORK on our part to learn & practice the skills that make it possible.

[Fuzzybear]

I think some abusers have probably tried to brainwash you with that stuff
Or perhaps it’s the result of depression or other mi
Either way I hope you can find some beliefs that are more gentle to self and possibly more empowering

[June55]

Sometimes this is the way I need to be because all other options have been tried and failed

[eskielover]

Originally Posted by June55

Sometimes this is the way I need to be because all other options have been tried and failed

Have you tried removing yourself from the people who seem to make you feel like you need to be this way?

I found when I left the environment that caused me so much pain, I was finally able to develop who I really am. Realized after leaving my past didn't follow me so I knew it wasn't me but my environment & good therapy proved that to be true.