looking for solace

Hey, PC Forums. It's been a minute.

I'm honestly just looking for solace. I know life is crazy with the coronavirus, US politics are absolutely bonkers, and it feels like the weight of the world is being felt by everyone right now.

I'm also dealing with a recent move across several states, saying goodbye yet again to a wonderful group of friends. I'm in a new job which I absolutely love, but of course, I'm still adjusting to a new schedule and a new city. To top it all off, my car was totaled not even after a year of having it. I'm incredibly grateful that I'm even alive (a few more feet and I would have been dead), nobody was hurt, and my insurance was super helpful.

But I've been dealing with all of that, a near-death experience, and a sudden lack of confidence in my abilities (I'm normally such a cautious driver and this totally caught me off guard) all on my own.

I was in a "rut" for so long where I had no motivation or even a desire to be happy. I was finally getting out of there when the accident happened last weekend.... I don't think I'm falling back into the rut, but it does feel like my ambitions and my mental health have been shattered.

I've had the virtual support of my friends via text and phone calls, but I don't have a literal shoulder to lean on here.

It's been so hard. And to give myself credit, I've been handling this a lot better than I thought I would. I don't feel depressed right now, but this whole week my appetite's been lower, and I absolutely can't focus at work. It feels like I don't deserve to feel happy. I can feel "fine" watching comedies on Netflix, but truly enjoying things I love like cooking, listening to music, or even chatting with friends doesn't "feel right" anymore. I don't know what to do.

I feel like I've been life's punching bag for a while, and I'm really looking forward to a break. Good things are on the horizon, but I just needed to vent my feelings because it's too much to deal with on my own.

Hope everyone else is doing all right. Peace & Love....

Hi Aimlesshiker,

I hope my English is good enough for you to understand me. Sorry if I make many grammar and syntax errors.

You have been through so much are still enduring many difficulties. I am not sure I could handle everything you are dealing with so I think you are very heroic and I really admire you.

Please feel free to lean on me and all of us here. I've only been here for short time but I have found this site very helpful.

I look forward to reading anything you post here and I wish you only good things, now and in the future.

-- Yaowen

It seems like you're going through A LOT, @aimlesshiker! Give yourself a break. You deserve it. The World can be REALLY overwhelming and there's nothing wrong with taking some time for ourselves. I COMPLETELY agree with what the wise and wonderful @Yaowen has already wisely and wonderfully said better than I Possibly ever couldWholefully and Entirely in my whole and entire Life! Take some time for Yourself and I am sure that things will adjust themselves out. Just do your best but remember to practice self-care as well. We are here rooting for you and supporting you if you need. Feel free to PM me ANYTIME! Please do listen to what @Yaowen is saying, OK?! YOU ARE THE STRONGEST! Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH You, @aimlesshiker, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK, MY DEAR, SWEET, KIND, AWESOME AND WONDERFUL FRIEND?!

Hi, aimlesshiker.

Wow, yes, you're going through a lot of things all right - both positive & negative, obviously.

Weighing it all up, I think your spirit will come back soon just by continuing to plug away at life, and playing your cards right. Obviously the recent car accident on top of all the other changes in your life has really upset the apple-cart, but these things do happen, I've had car accidents. And the whole thing is still very fresh in your mind, as well - it's traumatic! So, I'm not surprised that things have been feeling gloomy & flat recently.

All I can say is, just continue to utilize positive coping mechanisms and stay focused on the good things in your life, as well. Try not to withdraw and stay connected to your friends and family. These dark clouds you're seeing will blow over soon, I firmly believe that.

Thanks for sharing @aimlesshiker. You're a champ.

Sudden change can be depressing. It is normal. See a Therapist if you want to.