Rage

How do you avoid or cope with rage? I mean, you have a trigger and the next thing you know the window's broken, there is a hole in the wall, and you're all bruised/cut up, so how do you make that not happen?

I do not experience this type of rage myself, but in terms of anger and impulsive / reactive behavior, I've found that therapy and cultivating skills for that type of impulsive anger help.

Sorry to hear you've been struggling with this.

I'd recommend looking into DBT, it can be helpful for this type of thing.
DBT teaches really helpful skills to manage strong emotions.

Best of luck

You first need to alert yourself for when you're about to go into this frenzy mode. When something happens.. and you get triggered.. I would highly recommend that you get out of the house ASAP, and start jogging... or walking. either way. try to avoid areas to which you can break a window or punch a hole in. When you get angry... start exercising. Walk.. jog... run.. Do as many pushups as you can.. Burn that energy with vigorous exercise.

Yes, Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT).

My problem isn't rage, but when I have gotten severely overwhelmed, I get in my car, and drive where I won't be heard and scream, roar, yell, let loose all the pent up feelings.
The whole idea is to let them out. Without damage. The rage is simply strong feelings wanting/needing to come out.

Find yourself a safe outlet. Some type of strong physical exertion will often do the trick, especially if you can put your all into it.

A safe outlet is a good idea.

Still, in DBT one works on dealing with issues and emotions before they turn into rage.

A successful therapy dramatically reduces, and even ends, the experiencing of rage.

I have been through two rounds of DBT and it has helped me immensely.

I haven't figured it out yet, and I've been here 40 years.

Count yourself fortunate, then. My chest and hands shake, I get hot flashes, and my stomach usually bothers me. Can't afford therapy.

Here is a good introduction to DBT:

How Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) Works

Here is a helpful workbook:

https://www.amazon.com/Dialectical-B...1579238&sr=8-3

There are many DBT videos on youtube.