Feeling like a selfish baby

I didn’t see you post for a couple days and I was concerned. I’m not on the relationship sub. I do care and I like your posts.

I like your posts, but personally I don’t feel I have too much to offer. I don’t have children and I’ve never been married, so there’s not much I can really respond to. Plus I’m probably a bit too “rarghhhh!”, doom and gloom, “kick them to the curb” right now to offer helpful advice on complex relationships, because of my own issues I need to work on (although I do realise not everyone can/wants to wash their hands of everyone they have issues with!)
I don’t have a problem with your posts in general, though.

I am completely fine with your posts but often I don't have ideas to help. I acknowledge and admire you as being knowledgeable and being very honest and caring about your daughter in particular. I ask myself what I could I possibly have to say that sarahsweets has not already thought of?

But now in thinking about this I realize that I could perhaps be helpful simply by giving a hug or acknowledging the difficulty of the situation, something along those lines. Perhaps the visible evidence of being heard and cared about would be uplifting for you.

Everyone wants to be seen and heard. You're not a selfish baby

I do not think anyone here is a selfish baby.

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Only 1 or 2 posters ever reply to my threads and sometimes no one replies to my threads. Who knows why some people's threads garner more responses than others. Who knows. Do I take it personally when I see someone has over 500 responses and I have like, 1, response to a thread I created? Of course I do. But I can't control what motivates people to respond to my threads. So, just try not to take it so personally. At least you get responses to your threads sarah.

I also sometimes find it something of a mystery as to why some threads garner so many replies and others do not.

This is (obviously) an example of a thread which garners many replies (including many insights)

@sarahsweets, I’ve read your responses to other’s posts and your replies are well thought out and provide useful information too. Good question and not sure why some posts get more replies than others. Keep posting and it is therapeutic to post your thoughts and feelings too.

There is an ongoing thread of yours about having people over and you actually asked questions on it. People keep coming back posting on it @sarahsweets. I actually wondered how that party went and if you did it

@sarahsweets - if you had the party, how did it go?

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Originally Posted by Fuzzybear @sarahsweets - if you had the party, how did it go?

It went not so bad. I have a laundry room that goes out towards the back that is always a mess. Baskets and clothes and other stored stuff. I started to freak out because I never got it cleaned up with all the other stuff I had to do and its the main way people go into the back of the house. I decided that I just had to let that go and not freak out about it because there was so much else to do. I am not perfect and nothing ever seems right but I decided to just let it go. The rest of the house was ok. My BIL and his family are well off and my house was built in the 1700's so its quite ramshackle but I had to just let it go and focus on the point of the get together. I was exhausted because I was up and down the whole time as hostess and I wanted everyone to have what they needed. It turned out nice though I think. I am working on not comparing myself to others.