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TishaBuv · May 15, 2021, 07:45 AM

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Originally Posted by divine1966

Not liking tickling or itchy fabric or whatever other sensory things is a very common occurrence in a lot of people and at no point is a base of a diagnosis for autism spectrum disorder.

Also the husband here could be just not a match in sexuality department or just personalities don’t match. Or maybe people have some traits. I don’t know how it’s helpful to diagnose yourself or others with an actual disorder. We can talk ourselves into having every disorder on the planet by googling things and applying it to people and situations randomly.

No one was diagnosing. We’re just kicking around possibilities. The tactile sensory thing is a part of the whole spectrum thing, from ADHD to Autism. I have always had more sensitivity to it. We’ve suspected ADHD in my family in my grandfather, my mother and her sister, my one sister and myself. We saw it as an inability to relax. For example; my grandfather could not sit still, literally, he had to keep moving and if sitting, his legs would be tapping, his hands would be playing with the silverware. Two of my sons have been diagnosed ADHD. So, there’s nothing wrong with discussing that there might be something to this at play here with me. Although I have broached it with several doctors, they brush me off. I don’t insist and hammer them to force them to discuss it. That’s my experience of what has happened.

I respect your wanting to adhere to guidelines here, but we aren’t violating them.

divine1966 · May 15, 2021, 08:07 AM

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Originally Posted by TishaBuv

No one was diagnosing. We’re just kicking around possibilities. The tactile sensory thing is a part of the whole spectrum thing, from ADHD to Autism. I have always had more sensitivity to it. We’ve suspected ADHD in my family in my grandfather, my mother and her sister, my one sister and myself. We saw it as an inability to relax. For example; my grandfather could not sit still, literally, he had to keep moving and if sitting, his legs would be tapping, his hands would be playing with the silverware. Two of my sons have been diagnosed ADHD. So, there’s nothing wrong with discussing that there might be something to this at play here with me. Although I have broached it with several doctors, they brush me off. I don’t insist and hammer them to force them to discuss it. That’s my experience of what has happened.

I respect your wanting to adhere to guidelines here, but we aren’t violating them.

I don’t care about guidelines. I care about diagnosing without valid degree and knowledge. Diagnosing is a serious thing. I am not in support of “google” diagnosing

ADHD and ASD is not the same thing whatsoever (could be coexisting). The post I was replying to was not about ADHD, it was about people being casually diagnosed with ASD (Asperger is not even a valid diagnosis).

I am staying out of this conversation.

Bill3407 · May 31, 2021, 12:17 AM

Hi, been separated for a year now and my ex wants to work it. She want to move to another state and I think the same as your husband. But an willing to anything to make it work. I am hesitant but, what ever it takes. I would have to find another job. Which worries me in many way been at same job for a long time. Still not sure if we will work out.

TishaBuv · May 31, 2021, 09:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Bill3407

Hi, been separated for a year now and my ex wants to work it. She want to move to another state and I think the same as your husband. But an willing to anything to make it work. I am hesitant but, what ever it takes. I would have to find another job. Which worries me in many way been at same job for a long time. Still not sure if we will work out.

Hello @Bill3407 and welcome to the forum!

I’m sorry to hear your relationship is struggling, too. If you both are willing to do what it takes to make it work out, it definitely is possible.

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