[Blah nlah]

No yelling or shouting.
No name-calling or insults.
No gaslighting or denying the reality of events.
No physical violence or intimidation.
No manipulation or emotional blackmail.
Respect for personal space and privacy.
Respect for your opinions and feelings.
No invasive questioning or interrogation.
No threats or ultimatums.
No triangulation or involving third parties in conflicts.
No undermining your relationships with friends and family.
No isolating you from your support system.
No excessive control over your finances or decisions.
Respect for your autonomy and independence.
No guilt-tripping or blame-shifting.
No belittling your achievements or goals.
No crossing personal boundaries without consent.

[jesyka]

Those rules are good but useless if your mom ignores & disrespect ls boundaries like both my parents usually do. It’s better to go no or very low contact with toxic abusive parents

[Pflowers]

Zero Contact With Mine Was The Best Thing I Ever Did For My Physical & Emotional Well Being!

[unaluna]

Yeah, you really can't tell other people what to do. The expression here in the US used to be, "you vote with your feet" - like you dont go to stores or churches or whatever that you dont like for whatever reason. Find ones you DO like. Same goes for people.

[MuddyBoots]

Agree with other people. You can't control your mom, she's going to do what she wants to do. If she's that toxic, cut her out.

[rechu]

Originally Posted by jesyka

Those rules are good but useless if your mom ignores & disrespect ls boundaries like both my parents usually do. It’s better to go no or very low contact with toxic abusive parents

Yeah, unfortunately people that constantly bulldoze through our boundaries aren't going to accept those sorts of rules. I know, my mother is one of them. We've cycled through low contact or no contact most of my adult life as a result. It was never possible to have a reasonable conversation with her.