No one listens

Over these past few months my depression hasnt gotten much better. Everytime i talk to my parents about something it gets ignored. My boyfriends with me alot and he even sees them just completly ignore me.

It doesnt help my depression at all when im looked right threw the ones that are suppose to love and listen to me. Even when i do try to discuss the smallest thing with them they trys to change the subject.

Just gets me feeling like no one loves me enough to actually listen to a thing i say...just more depressed.

.....thanks for listening

(((((xxMSFxx))))) do your parents know that you are suffering with depression?

my mom knows, i think my dad just trys to forget about it. she knows i need help because i asked many times before.......nothing has happened about it though

Hmmm... Now I'm curious why your dad dismisses, or apparently dismisses, your depression. (If this is too personal, just ignore me.) I wonder whether or not he or someone close to him in his past suffered with depression, and he doesn't want to deal with the memories or triggers.

But that's just speculation. You're in pain. You need attention and needn't be ashamed for needing attention.

Time and energy permitting, post away...

idk, hes always seem to look past me ever since i can remember. when i was put in the hospital, the T there said tht we dont have a close relationship at all. Maybe he just doesnt want to put up with the "drama" as they call it. idk....

(((((((MSF))))))))

I'm sorry it's been hard getting your parents to listen to you. I know how difficult and hurtful that can be.

My parents are both aware of my depression, but we rarely actually talk about it. I'm perfectly comfortable bringing it up, but my parents tend to change the subject when it comes up, and we never actually use words like "depression" or "therapy" unless we absolutely have to, and then I can tell that it makes them squirm. Maybe the problem is that your parents don't have enough of an understanding of depression to really know how to deal with it or the fact that you have it. Maybe they're having a hard time handling the fact that their child is having problems? I think one of the most difficult things for a parent to face is the idea that their child is unhappy, and they may be feeling helpless in the face of that.

I don't really have any advice on the matter because I haven't figured out what to do about my parents' discomfort either. I just wanted you to know that I understand and you're not alone.

Thanks (justfloating)

my parents get the same way when i mention the same words. the weird thing is my ma use to suffer from depression as she told me. my sister also suffers from bipolar disorder along with a few other things. like you said i dont think that shes ready to admit that i suffer from depression. mostly everything is about my sister and im pushed in the dirt

I myself have battled depression for a long time. My findings is that some people do not truly understand depression or how it makes us feel. So they really don't know how to help us or that they are hurting us. With depression I also find myself being able to be hurt so much easier than the person without depression. I am in no way putting blame on you or your parents I am only sharing what I have learned. If there is any blame it is on the illness of depression. hugs for you

How true!

xxMSFxx, you, your hurt and depression won't be shoved in the dirt here. This is your thread, your place; parents and sister are background - here you stand in front.

thanks rohag
this is one place where I feel people listen to me

I'm new to this. No one listens to me either. I screamed for help last night by the edge of a bridge and no one came. Yet I have meds, a shrink and a social worker. Lost my job yesterday..... depression has totally taken over!

I know how you feel, my parents ignore me too. Always have. Now I'm done trying to talk to them, I already know they won't give a damn.
But I hope you realize this doesn't mean no one will ever love you enough t olisten to you. It sucks they can't (or don't want to) give you all the consideration you need and deserve, but it's not your fault.

Take care

Thanks everyone. Im going to try to talk to my parents again....maybe it will work. But i found out one thing over the weekend, im boyfriend is there for me. I knew i could talk to him. So i did, he took things off my mind and help settle some unanswered things. If it wasnt for you guys and him, i dont know what i would have done.

about the not being listened to thing... a lot of people, especially those with this illness, can feel like that. we live on such a tiny planet yet everybody seems to be wrapped up in their own lives. it will take time but eventually they will notice; and they are your family, so they honestly do care whether they want to or not - its a part of survival.
just wanted to try to make you feel that little bit less alone.. i know what the emptiness and those unbearable lows are like too.
x

sorry I havnt been on in a bit...school n work are killin me. my parents have kinda been lisening, ever since I got sick they don't have much of a choice. im still fighting with depression everyday. it got a little bit better, but not enough for me to feel like a normal kid :/

Hi, xxMSFxx! No need to be sorry - school, work, family (and friends?) demand their share and then some.This is encouraging, and by "normal" I'm assuming you mean what you perceive the majority of the young people around are feeling, yes?

What about friends and fun?

Post when you're comfortably able to do so

yeah i guess thats what i mean. i know that 'normal' kids aren't depressed, bipolar, suicidal, or what may have you. and i really dont want to feel these things anymore. it feels like its gone on for too long, i dont remember being just a happy kid...just always depressed or suicidal.

Here's hoping you soon acquire other, happier memories (and, even with depression, it is possible to make and hold some happy memories)

its just hard because it feels like ive been depressed for so long.

I learned fairly early on that most people are not equipped to deal with the intense emotions of depression - they don't understand it and feel uncomfortable that they don't know what to say or do to make you feel better. Your parents' behavior isn't really that unusual and there are many possible reasons they respond/don't respond as they do/don't - listening to you talk makes them see things within themselves that might be indicators that they are suffering from depression, also, and they don't want to admit to it; see your (and your sister's) problem as somehow being their fault or failing; don't know what to do to help, etc., etc. The point being that they may never be comfortable talking about your depression with you for whatever reason. You said you have a T and are on medication - perhaps you should talk to your doctor about how you feel in case your meds need to be adjusted/changed. Also, talk to your T as openly and honestly as you can so he/she can tailor your therapy to more appropriately address your present state. I'm glad that your boyfriend understands your situation and is able to provide support.

Have you ever asked your parents why they seem to be uncomfortable talking with you about your depression? Their responses might be quite enlightening.

As always, please keep posting - we are here and will hear you.

unfortunately I do not have a T yet..it seems like I can't get anywhere without there help

What about a counselor at your school - or even a teacher you like and trust?

councilers at my school seem fake..and as far as teachers go...they seem to have there own agenda, and too busy all of the time

It's impossible for people to deal with other people's mental illness. People just don't have that big hearts.

That's why you need help from a professional. And your family needs help understanding how to help you.

Everyone has moments where they feel lost, like no one cares. The worst part? That's probably true, to a degree at least. And it's at those moments that it's easiest to lose sight of the people who do care, who love you, but just aren't around when you need it.