Up and down

Recently my gf that I loved more than I have any other person broke up with me and I've been extremely depressed for the last 2 and a half weeks

The past two days I feel a little bit better for about 20 minutes (I'm happy to be making progress) but then soon after that I feel extremely sad for anywhere from 2-3 hours and then I get 20 minutes of feeling betters and it just repeats.

Sometimes it gets really extreme and I start to just break down crying.

I just want to know if this is normal, and if anyone has any advice for me..

Thank you...

Hello, Coachllama!

I do not know whether or not what you described can be characterized as “normal.” I definitely can say, if I lost someone I loved more than any other in the world, my reaction would be similar to yours. I'm not sure my “relationship mourning” would last as long as yours will, that because I've had a lot of experience repressing my feelings (not the healthiest thing to do, by the way).

I suspect you will continue to mourn your loss for a while, how long is dependent on your personality, emotional makeup, life experience, external events, etc. You may be able to hasten (not end) the process by distracting yourself with other people and activities. The less you're focusing on yourself, the fewer “hooks” the pain of mourning has to grasp.

May the sun of happiness rise again for you soon!

(((coachllama)))

So sorry to hear that Time is a great healer .
Take care of yourself.

Grief is normal. It is a fact of life. We are emotional beings and when something happens to bring us sadden, such a lose, it is imperative to travel though the grief.

The goal must be to understand the grief, accept that it is necessary and allow it to happen. Just don't allow it to consume you completely.

If you need to talk to someone, find a therapist to talk too, it can make the difference. My words my not be welcome at this point in your grief, but I hope you will consider them.

When my marriage broke up 24 years ago, it was a bad time, it had been a bad time prior to that day. It took a long time to recover from that grief, but I did it and YOU CAN DO THIS TOO!

i think that the amount one grieves, depends on how much one has lost in life.

eg. a small childs gerbil dies. they cry for weeks.

or some poor unfortunate person who has had a family member die. to them, the gerbil prolly didnt upset em much. you get me?

cuz loss is only measured on a personal scale. noone has the right to say OH youre overreacting.

alternatively, people can be nonchalant to the point of it being scary bout loss. thats usually a sign of repression i guess. but yeah :P

i have to go, before my lappy overheats.

but yeah ^^