[rtrudeau]

Hey, it's been a long time since i've been on here. I recently came off my meds for depression and I'm doing good, for the most part.

I don't know what to do anymore though. Today, I got home from school and my mom was going up to school to watch the last part of Meagan's practice and pick her up. I had to stay home for Nicole (9 yrs).

When she got home i asked if she had homework, she said yes, and i asked her to feed the dog at 4:30. When she didn't, i started calling her name to find out where she was. When she didnt answer, i looked for her and the last place i looked was in her room, right next to the loft where i called her from.

She was watching TV and not listening to me, ignoring me and mocking me. I dont understand why she is a brat all the time. I asked her to do her homework because she didn't and then she started being more of a brat. I hate it.

I don't know how to get her to realize that I'm sick of her being mean and snotty to everybody.

I've tried to get her to understand. I do the same stuff to her, I talk to her about it, i yell, i tell mom and dad, i tell her how i feel, i've even asked to "please" stop. SHE WON'T!!!

What can I do to make her stop, because whenever she gets mad at me, she tells, or writes a note to mom that i was mean to her. Then when mom gets home, she sees the not and has to ask me "Whay are you such an *** hole Ryan!?!?! Why cant you be nice for once!???" then she doesn't want to let me tell her what really happened. It's like, no matter what, when Nicole says somthing happened, it must have happened. Mom believes Nicole no matter what.

What can I do?

-ryan

[jmo531]

Rtru,

Well, 9 yr olds have a knack for being manipulative. They often will fib to their parents so they sound like the victim. I have a 9 year old so i can tell you from first hand experience, they arnt as innocent as they claim to be. I would sit her down and approach her as you would someone your own age. I think that kids now a days are more receptive when they feel like they are being treated as a "big person". This makes them feel like they are equal and have a say in the matter.
I would also speak with your mother just as you have done here. Sometimes ( I am guilty of this) tend to put blinders on and not realize I'm doing something until someone brings it to my attention.
I know this situation is extremely frustrating for you and I am sorry. Please keep us posted. Take care.

[jmo531]

I forgot to mention that I am proud that you are doing well since you came off your meds.