[AngieBaby]

I've been reading everyone's posts the past few days and thought I'd go ahead and join in. I don't easily open up so I guess I'll just throw a few things out there that I'm currrently dealing with.

I was recently in a relationship that turned physically abusive. He was jailed briefly for one incident. Stupidly, I went back to him for a short period. While we were together then he found out that I'd gone to the police and reported the more serious incident for which he was not jailed. Upon finding this out, he demanded that I sign a quit claim deed to a house I owned free and clear that he would supposedly destroy after I was able to prove there were no charges against him. The district attorney had declined to file charges and said we'd wait to see if I had any further trouble from him. Of course he filed the deed to the house and now has the tenants paying the rent to him.

After the first, most severe, incident of physical abuse, I was unable to work and after being off a week I was let go. So now I have no job and no income from the house. I've not been able to pay this month's rent on my apartment. I finally let my dad know the situation with the house and he has contacted a lawyer to see if there is anything that can be done. I'm to call the lawyer tomorrow. I'm hoping dad will help with the rent as well.

I stopped taking my anti-depressants, anxiety meds, and sleeping pills in July due to monetary reasons as well. I've managed to isolate myself from everyone that lives near me. My dad is over 1000 miles away.

I have a couple other major issues I'm dealing with as well, but I'll not get into those now. I feel like I'm dumping on all of you and bringing you down. Maybe I shouldn't even be posting and just keep reading.

Thanks for listening!

Ang

[nowheretorun]

Ang,

Please don't feel you've brought anyone down.. we all have something that brought us here. It's good you're getting it out, finding support. I'm sure several here will identify with how you feel. Personally, I'm male, neither abuser or abused... I'm glad you've gotten away from that....

As for meds... is there anyway you can qualify for low income medications? Many companies will provide meds at little or no cost if you qualify.

Hang out a while... see how you like it.. it's really a great group of people

"Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but rising every time we fall." Confucius

[hey_hey]

Hi AgnieB,

I can imagine how hard it is to be in a situation like this. But first off, I would like to make sure to you, that you are very welcome to this forum, as I know everyone else will say the same thing to you later. This place is where many of us call home, we all have experience of find comfort, support and good advice from others on this forum. All the folks here are suffering from some sorts of mental difficulties or hard situations, so we all know how important to get support, that's why when we see others in such need, we all come for the job. I do hope you come often and feel free to express yourself, whatever it is, let it out... and I'm sure you will make much contribution as well... I'm also sure that you will find here a wonderful place to be and the people are very loving too... Let me extend my hands to you, and give you a very warm welcome hug (((((((((AngieB))))))))))))))

You didn't say much about your feeling about this guy, so I don't know how do you plan with your next step on this matter, keep staying with him? or break up with him? It's very obvious that this guy is not doing you any good, and you certainly don't deserve to be treated like this. Do you love him? What is good about him? I think if you just got monetary lost because of him, that's easier to get over, but do not let him to harm you more on your mental health. I feel you are a good hearted and wonderful young lady, you got to stand up for yourself when some assholes stepped on you... I know how you feel, I had some problems with guy issues before...

Take control of your life, get rid of him if he makes you going down like this... sometimes us women have a tendency of being nice and kind, but our kindness is often being taken as weaknesses... You need to stay away from him if you can't control his violence breaking out. So he blackmailed you on this house rent issue, yeah? what? He traded this with a promise that he is never gonna to raise hands on you? Sorry, I'm just guessing, and trying to figure out what is this guy's intention... pls don't feel offended... but one thing I can tell you, it's also many abuse survivors said, the abusive ones abuse you once, there will always be next times...

AngieB, do you have some close friends around you who you can share this with? It's hard to fight by yourself, since your family is far away... I don't know what else to say can make you feel better. It seems there is a decision for you to make... Please take care of yourself as much as you can. I think it's a good idea to get legal help, hope things will work out, and most importantly, you will be able to get over from the crap, and go on with your life, your future is more important!!

((((((((more hugs 4 u))))))))))))

Best,
Toni

[i] What our mind can conceive and believe, it will achieve.

[AngieBaby]

Thanks for the notes & encouragement HeyHey & Toni. I truly appreciate it.

I've not seen him since around the first of July. He's about 200 miles away right now. We were in contact until mid August when he was able to accomplish getting the tenants to pay him. I've not heard from him since. I was very much in love with him and that is what led me back to him after he was jailed. I went through a similar situation, without the physical abuse, that ended in February of 2001. I was used in a big way and very much played for the fool. They were both relatively short relationships but definitely inflicted a major degree of emotional pain.

I am to go and call the lawyer later this morning. I'm a nervous wreck about that and woke up thinking of it off and on all night long.

I don't have anyone close by to be a support group. The couple close friends that I had I have managed to lose contact with through my isolation in this depression. I recently e-mailed one of them at work just to tell her I missed her & loved her and haven't gotten a response at all.

[kvinneakt]

I am glad you are seeing a lawyer. There are times like this when it is clearly necessary.

You should locate the nearest women's crisis center and talk to them. You are not alone. This kind of mess is sadly common. There are a lot of people who can and want to help you work it out. They can help guide you with food, housing, meds, counseling, and support groups.

Stay involved here, too, if you find it helpful. There are quite a few folks to share stories with.

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[Peanut61]

WELCOME to the forum, Angie! Warmest regards, Peanut

<font color=blue>HI FROM PEANUT </font color=blue>

[AngieBaby]

Thanks for the replies and the welcome. I spoke with a legal assistant on the phone for well over an hour in regards to the situation today. He was going to take all the information to the real estate lawyer in their firm and see what his thoughts were on the likelihood of getting the house back. Of course he thought I SHOULD and that the law SHOULD stand behind me, but of course the burden of proof is on our part. It was a long, draining conversation, but a step in the right direction hopefully.

Thanks again for the welcome. It's nice to know that there are people out there that care and are interested.

[heidu]

Angiebaby,
Just wanted to say hi and welcome.
Heidu

"Rabbit's clever," said Pooh thoughtfully.
"Yes," said Piglet, "Rabbit's clever."
"And he has a Brain."
"Yes," said Piglet, "Rabbit has a Brain."
There was a long silence.
"I suppose," said Pooh, "that that's why he never understands anything."