Fine Again....?

Hello, Mini moo. Thank you for your thoughtful post. Your words speak to the need for constant vigilance and the necessity of being able to adapt to the ever-changing environment we live in.

"Fine" for me often is a code word for not so fine. I want to be positive and do not want to be viewed as a whiner. What is so wonderful about this place is not having to encode how we feel.

May you find peace and understanding here, Mini moo.

Thanks. I kind of worries me that no one comented on this except you. I really aprecciate that. And in this world (the teenage portion) you do have to hide your feeling, most of the time. Especially at school. But I think I do it pretty well most of the time. Well I hope things are going well for you.

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Hang in there (((((((((Minimooo))))))))). HUggsss. Even the teenagers here are pretty empathic, if you will excuse the "even". Keep posting !!!!!!

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I hear you and understand fine. I have always said I was fine when I am screaming something else. But I have never wanted to burden anyone or bother anyone. It was always so much easier to say I am fine so not to have to listen to being in trouble or knocked down again to only feel worse, and still have no one to listen.

I do hear you. So many times even now, I say I am fine when in reality I am not. And I know that others can read right through that fine. When your face tells a different story than your words but yet the words seem to always be the same.

Why is it that we are so hard to just say what we feel? I am an adult now, and still feel the need to hide behind those four little letters when I really want someone to know the truth. Will we ever change? Or is it from a need to protect and be what was always expected.

When you grow up in a place that is not okay, and the expectation is to never tell, you adopt the "I'm Fine" and you never look back. When you live in a place where others (peer pressure) are always seeming to be fine and you want no one to know any different, you reach for the "I'm fine", and no one questions.

I do understand Mini moo. And I hear you and what you are saying. Please keep posting and sharing. I appreciated your post. Sending you gentle hugs and loving thoughts.

dps

mini moo, I'm listening to you as well. I'm sorry I didn't respond earlier. It always hurts me when no one responds to my posts.

I use fine when I don't mean it all the time. My husband knows I'm lying though. PDS is right, why can't we just say what's really wrong?

I've given up using "fine." In its place I usually say, "tolerable." Or, for more comic effect, in reply to "How are you?" I say nothing, place fingers on my wrist as if I'm taking my pulse and stare off into space with a puzzled look on my face.

there is a reason that the word FINE is a four-letter word. I was fine on the day i od'd. The scariest part is not how I could lie to others, but that I lied so effectively to myself. Thankyou for your thoughtful post and be anything but f*#*.......blessings

FINE is an acronym, don't know if anyone else has heard it - F***ed Up, Insecure, Neurotic and Emotional. Maybe that is more accurate. I try to avoid saying "fine" now, generally go for "ok" which is pretty non-commital but not an out-and-out lie. Liked your poem, Mini moo

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Thanks. I don't really like that question but I do find that "the four letter words' do make things easier. I have friends but we don't talk to eachother about the serious things. Not many of them know that I SI. Sometimes I can't explain why I am not in a good mood.

I don't know why we can't just say what we feel. Honestly I don't think we will ever grow out of hiding our emotions/feelings. But Knowing that we do want someone to know how we feel and not being able to tell them gets frustrating! Most people can't see through me when I say that I am fine. Even if I want them too. I just smile and act like everything is ok, even when I feel like I want to "End It".

Thank you everyone for your posts. I got a smile out of most of these.

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