[lindee]

I've been crying for 3 days. Its getting worse. I can't get it out of my mind. He says its my fault. I trusted him. NOW WHAT? What do I do?

Sorry, I just don't know what to do. But I can't say what my problem is. I am so ashamed. Its not my fault.

sorry, I don't know what I want here but I know I need help.

[pegasus]

Even if it was your fault, we all make mistakes, we are not perfect. Is the person who said this perfect?

Sending hugs (((((((((( lindee )))))))))))

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by pegasus

Even if it was your fault, we all make mistakes, we are not perfect. Is the person who said this perfect?

Sending hugs (((((((((( lindee )))))))))))

good post

[Rohag]

Hello & gentle hugs (if that's OK), Lindee!

Crying for such a long time has probably exhausted you. As best you can, get some real rest. Your mind will work better for it.

Once you're able to focus, then try to determine exactly what kind of help you need. Maybe you can privately confide in your closest friends, family or a counselor. Regardless, the decisions to seek help and what kind of help are yours.

I don't need to know any details to understand you are in distress. Your distress is our distress.

[lindee]

Originally Posted by pegasus

Even if it was your fault, we all make mistakes, we are not perfect. Is the person who said this perfect?

Sending hugs (((((((((( lindee )))))))))))

No he is definitely not anywhere near perfect. If he was he wouldn't have done what he did.

thanks for hugs

[lindee]

Originally Posted by Rohag

Hello & gentle hugs (if that's OK), Lindee!

Crying for such a long time has probably exhausted you. As best you can, get some real rest. Your mind will work better for it.

Once you're able to focus, then try to determine exactly what kind of help you need. Maybe you can privately confide in your closest friends, family or a counselor. Regardless, the decisions to seek help and what kind of help are yours.

I don't need to know any details to understand you are in distress. Your distress is our distress.

I have no friends and no family left except my son and I sure can't tell him my problems. At least not this problem.

Thank you for your caring.

[turquoisesea]

sometimes we look so hard to find someone to blame that we fail to realize that there might not be anyone to blame at all.

Sometimes things just happen.

Sometimes we make mistakes, and we need to move on from them.

If someone makes an honest mistake I think their punishment for the action should be at LEAST less, or preferably nothing but being told they should try better for next time

[lindee]

Originally Posted by turquoisesea

sometimes we look so hard to find someone to blame that we fail to realize that there might not be anyone to blame at all.

Sometimes things just happen.

Sometimes we make mistakes, and we need to move on from them.

If someone makes an honest mistake I think their punishment for the action should be at LEAST less, or preferably nothing but being told they should try better for next time

Aren't there some things that just can't be forgiven? Thats how I feel about what he did.

[turquoisesea]

some things may be hard or impossible to forgive. It depends on the person, the situation. And the liklihood that it would happen again. If they did it on purpose, if it was a mistake, if it's happened before. I guess there's not one answer.

I dunno what he did, you know?

*hugs*

[lindee]

Originally Posted by turquoisesea

some things may be hard or impossible to forgive. It depends on the person, the situation. And the liklihood that it would happen again. If they did it on purpose, if it was a mistake, if it's happened before. I guess there's not one answer.

I dunno what he did, you know?

*hugs*

thank you so much for trying to help me. I appreciate your kindness.

[ADHD1956]

[lonegael]

How's it going, Lindee? HUUGGGSSS

[NuckingFutz]

Hello and welcome to PC. I hope that you have a look around and post when you are ready. This is a very supportive and helpful place. It sounds like you could use some emotional support right about now. Maybe for some SAFE HUGS for you.

[NuckingFutz]

No, it isn't your fault, but if you do not get help, and it happens again, you won't be able to say it is not your fault now will you? Please get help.

[stefano]

I have come to learn that "fault" and "guilt" are especially overrrated and overused words. One should be perfectly free to form his/her will, and then harm somebody purposefully. A rare situation indeed.
Can you try to write down what happened? Can you try to just tell it loud (just to yourself). I may bring the fact to light in a bearable manner. Since it is so triggering you may discharge a little emotional strenght from it. Maybe. You may try.

I wish you all the courage you need!

[FeelingHopeful]

Lindee!!! Big Big Hugs!! Im sorry your oing through such a tough time, Please stay strong!