Crying, loneliness, and all that jazz

azkaban · Jan 10, 2010, 09:51 PM

I have just arrived back to my dorm, 300 miles away from home, and although I try so hard not to cry, I can't not cry. And when I start, it's hard to stop.

I go through this every time I visit home and every time someone visits me and leaves. I go through this way too much. I am just so lonely here. People at my university aren't the most sociable people. I am so far from home and so alone. I have just about one friend that I see once a week. I also go to the psychiatrist that the university offers once a week. Between those two, I spend my time either crying, trying not to cry, or being completely numb to everything and everyone. I get so irritated with everyone around here, which doesn't really help things.

I have never had trouble making friends in my life, and I have changed not only many schools during my lifetime, but also countries.

I have started sinking and the only time I am better is when I am around my family and loved ones.

I just need advice on how to deal with this. People have given me the advice of "Put yourself out there, join clubs, go to museums, go to a concert..", etc. etc. etc. but I've done all that and nothing is really working thus far.

Jan 11, 2010, 05:04 AM

Maria, perhaps you should call the psychiatrist to tell him/her that you need more help than what you are getting? You should not have to live this way. Please take action to get the help you need.

Good luck.

tryingtobeme · Jan 11, 2010, 09:05 AM

I agree with TheByzantine...sounds like you could use more help. We are here for you at PC. Please post more if it helps. Take care.

Lilly76 · Jan 11, 2010, 09:15 AM

Hey azkaban, how long do you have left at Uni? Is there any chance that you could move closer to your family? I agree that you need more help and possibly seek that through your psychiatrist but maybe look at other options to make life a little easier for you. Your health is so much more important than anything else. It sounds like your family are extremely important to you and you find them a great souce of comfort and support so it would make sense to be around them, especially during difficult periods.

Take care of yourself...

Xelora · Jan 11, 2010, 11:05 PM

I like your name btw

And I feel you. Have you talked to your counselor about possible support groups? I know everyone says to join a club and I'm having trouble finding a great fit for finding friends too.

Jan 11, 2010, 11:09 PM

Azkaban, Do you get online much? I'm kinda a loner & could use a friend to talk to =) My screen name is Sexibaybuh, IM me sometime! -Michelle

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Originally Posted by azkaban

I have just arrived back to my dorm, 300 miles away from home, and although I try so hard not to cry, I can't not cry. And when I start, it's hard to stop.

I go through this every time I visit home and every time someone visits me and leaves. I go through this way too much. I am just so lonely here. People at my university aren't the most sociable people. I am so far from home and so alone. I have just about one friend that I see once a week. I also go to the psychiatrist that the university offers once a week. Between those two, I spend my time either crying, trying not to cry, or being completely numb to everything and everyone. I get so irritated with everyone around here, which doesn't really help things.

I have never had trouble making friends in my life, and I have changed not only many schools during my lifetime, but also countries.

I have started sinking and the only time I am better is when I am around my family and loved ones.

I just need advice on how to deal with this. People have given me the advice of "Put yourself out there, join clubs, go to museums, go to a concert..", etc. etc. etc. but I've done all that and nothing is really working thus far.

azkaban · Jan 11, 2010, 11:54 PM

Let me start off by thanking all of you for responding with such great advice.

I will talk to my counselor this Friday when we have our appointment about maybe visiting her twice a week or asking her what else I can do.

The only downside is that I can't afford to go anywhere else right now, unless it's free of course.

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Originally Posted by Lilly76

Hey azkaban, how long do you have left at Uni? Is there any chance that you could move closer to your family? I agree that you need more help and possibly seek that through your psychiatrist but maybe look at other options to make life a little easier for you. Your health is so much more important than anything else. It sounds like your family are extremely important to you and you find them a great souce of comfort and support so it would make sense to be around them, especially during difficult periods.

Take care of yourself...

I am a freshman. I finish my first year in the first week of May, then I'm home until August. The good thing is that my one friend here and her roommate (who is really nice as well) were kind enough to invite me to live with them next year so we'll be looking for three bedroom apartments soon.

The reason I am so close to those few I love is probably because my parents have been the only ones that I had when going through my transition of moving to the US. It's hard not having that support there.

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Originally Posted by Xelora

I like your name btw

And I feel you. Have you talked to your counselor about possible support groups? I know everyone says to join a club and I'm having trouble finding a great fit for finding friends too.

I will ask her about any support groups she knows of. Sadly, the clubs at my uni are all..just..not fitting for me. I just wish I could find a person I can really get close to that can be my support here. Is that so hard to ask for?

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