[AngieBaby]

I'd like to ask that everyone please send positive thoughts/prayers my way in regards to a job that I interviewed for last week. I should hear something by the end of the day Tuesday. A job would be a big step in the right direction for me and the job market here is lousy and I have a deferred sentence from a domestic situation that may prevent me from getting many jobs. My Dad is having to pay my rent this month which makes me feel like such a huge loser. I'm 35 with a college degree and my Dad is still having to bail me out!!!!! Gawd, I hate that! I went to a friend's today and he and I went to lunch and hung out this afternoon so that part of my day was better than most. But I know that when I awaken in the morning, I will once again dread the day knowing that I will simply sit here and watch television and hang out online all day long.

I'm glad I found this board. I enjoy reading all of your posts and seeing the care that you display for one another.

Ang

[kvinneakt]

Best of luck. Welcome aboard the bus. When we have a destination figured out, we will announce it. In the meantime, make yourself comfortable and enjoy the ride.

Bumper sticker: Wherever you go, there you are

Angie, best of luck to you. The job market is very hard these days, believe me I'm out there too.

Like Kv said, enjoy the ride and the "atmosphere".

Mary Alice

[pebblypoo]

Good Luck to you!

The right job can do wonders for your self-esteem!

Pebs

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Sometimes I lie awake at night in bed and I ask, "Is it all worth it?" And then a voice says, "Who are you talking to?" And another voice says, "You mean, ' To whom are you talking?'" And I say, "No wonder I lie awake at night."--Charlie Brown </font color=purple>

[heidu]

Best of luck!! I hope it goes the way you want.
If not remember, there will be something else even though the market is tight you just gotta hang in there and keep trying.
Heidu

Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending.
~ Carl Bard ~

[heatherm]

{{{{{{{{{{Ang}}}}}}}}}}

Have you heard any news yet? I have been thinking of you and sending you positive thoughts If this doesn't work out remember that there are more out there and things happen for a reason.
What field are you in? Part of my job is helping people find jobs in the IT sector (Information Technology) I work for a non profit govt organization so we don't charge for any services either....let me know if I can help you in anyway ok?

Take care


Heather

[AngieBaby]

Thanks so much, Heather. I haven't heard anything yet, but I do appreciate you thinking of me. My background and experience is in human resources, but at this point I'm willing to take anything. Searching for a job is difficult enough without adding the depression and other issues I'm dealing with right now. It so makes me just want to throw up my hands and give up.

Thanks again,
Ang

[LMo]

Hi Angie:
Well, I'm hoping it works out for you. I know what you mean about giving up, but not from personal experience. I'm on this board because my boyfriend (of 3 years) has been pretty severely depressed since last November, mostly because his work and educational history was spotty for the prior few years. Now, he hasn't worked since April, and doesn't even really look for jobs. He has applied for two jobs (one rejected him already - still waiting about the other), but only when I have threatened to kick him out (which believe me, I do NOT want to do, but I can't support him forever!) and then took him over to the computer, entered search criteria, hit the Apply button for him, and then took dictation for his cover letter and resume.

It's your post and I don't want to hog it up -- but I'd welcome advice from any of you about this issue. My boyfriend says that if he has a job, he won't be depressed anymore -- yet, he's too depressed to look for a job and face the possible rejection. He doesn't feel that he is in the least bit marketable (which is not entirely wrong, I have to admit), but he won't put himself out there and do the things that most people would do to improve their resume -- such as taking classes, doing volunteer work, asking for internships or apprenticeships, etc. I keep wanting to say "if I were you, I'd...", but I know that it doesn't help - I'm not him and I don't know what it's like to be so depressed that I cannot function. I can't relate to that, and it pains me so much to see him like this.

He's feeling much better now that he's on medication, but he still won't look for a job. I do understand his fear - but I don't know how I should deal with it -- it causes big problems in our relationship, as you can imagine. This has been going on for most of our relationship, and although we love each other tremendously, the resentment is always underlying. He resents me for nagging him (and I believe for kind of showing him up, although I certainly don't do so intentionally), and I resent him for not trying and allowing himself to be dependent on me. It would be really simple if we didn't live together - I wouldn't feel the obligation - but I am commited to him and really don't want him to leave - I just want him to pull his own weight with regard to working. I'm tired of doing it all myself.

Any suggestions? Feedback? Insight?

Ian is going to be a-ok!

[AngieBaby]

Well, I didn't get the job. While I thought the interview went well, I didn't really expect to get the job.

I wish I knew what to tell you in regards to your boyfriend, but I don't. I know that I resent a great deal of the 'advice' I receive from well meaning friends that can't understand where I'm coming from or how I feel at all. Support him and be there for him is all I know to tell you, which is probably not what you want to hear.

Thanks for the notes & wishes everyone. Back to the drawing board for me, I guess.

Ang

[kvinneakt]

Consider it a practice interview. You might even be able to interview your interviewer and ask what they think will help you in the future.

Unless you are one of the wealthy, the current economy sucks. Don't take job struggles personally.

Bumper sticker: Wherever you go, there you are

[AngieBaby]

Thanks KV. I appreciate the encouragement. I can use all I can get right now.

[Rapunzel]

Good luck with the next one. I've heard that it takes about 10 interviews, give or take, to get a job offer, and that was when the economic situation was better than it is. Hang in there and keep trying! You can do it!

<font color=blue>Life is filled with tragedy; if you let it overwhelm you, you cannot enjoy life's innocent pleasures. -Robert Heinlein</font color=blue>