[LadyDragus]

I have had a really low day today.

I tried to get my daugthers faimly to spend time with her today, other than me and her stepdaddie, but no one would make the time.. I am almost at my wites end at how to get them to come to our home and spend time with her, .
I am almost in tears over this, it makes me sick, that we always have to go down there for them to do anything with her, they always want to spend time with her down at there house, not mine, .....

Why do some people have to be so uncaring, to me and my fiance' do they not understand how badly it hurts my feelings, and this week of all weeks, I hate to drive anywhere let alone, drive 14 miles to see them.. I know it will be her birthday tommorw and she will want to see them, but I just do not feel like going, I am so deperssed, I actually feel like doing something I have not done in a very very long time.. (cutting) or soemthing else.. Which is not like me, this time, my coffee has not helped, my chocalte has not helped, writing, reading journaling has not helped all the coping methodes I tell others about notta

What am I to do.. If I tell them I am sick and do not fell good will they come in here, and try to be freindly towards me, ?? oh why do I feel so much like this

I'm sorry that you're hurting. It isn't fair when families don't teach each other with the respect that they deserve. I wish I could be there with you and I'd make sour cream cookies and tea and we'd sit outside and talk.....I sure wish I could give you advice about families, but mine is just as messed up as yours is. Reckon we could buy ourselves a new family??????? xoxoxo pat

[LadyDragus]

you know if it was that easy I would have boutght me a new family a long time ago..

With a new ex husband a long time ago

[wisewoman]

Sorry for the pain this is causing you. Favero, please do not buy me a family. I am only a few years drom living in my yurt and darn it, I am going to enjoy the solitude.

[Hope4me2]

so sorry your hurting right now
{{{{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} if you want them
take care and be kind to yourself ......take a nap and rest good way to get your mind off things...we are here if you need to vent...

[wi_fighter]

LadyD, I'm sorry you have to deal with uncooperative family.

((((((((((((((LadyDragus))))))))))))

okay, WW//////////\\\\\\\\\\

[LadyDragus]

ya so I am .. and today is suposed to be a special day for Jessica it is her 3rd birthday

[christopherm317]

Happy belated birthday to your daughter. I just want to say that I too have these issue's with my husband family. Take it from me you don't need those people to be in your daughters life. They cant drive 20 minutes to see your daughter then they don't care enough for her and don't need to be around her. Don't let those people make you feel this away. You need to be strong for your kids. Children do see what's going on, even if they are little they can be just as affected by the situation as you are. I care so much about my daughter having family. Sense I didn't have a lot of contact with my family growing up. I wanted that to be different with my daughter. I bent over backwards for my husbands family. Making sure my daughter could have a lot of exposer to them. In the end they don't see my daughter any more. They cannot produce the type of family I believe my daughter deserves. So she is better off not being around them. They haven't done anything for my daughter but they dragged me down and wasted my time and money. You need to take care of your daughter and yourself. Do not let their lack of effort bother you. Be strong, and good luck to you.

[cat_eye]

(((((((((((ladyD))))))))))

[Miss_A]

{{{{{{{Ladydragus}}}}}}} Some people are like that, It might not be you at all. Try making you home more welcoming are some thing. Invite then over for a patry kind of thing and some more people. I don't know what else to say but your lucky you have your own home!

[LadyDragus]

i have did that many timess.. but that does not work.. They keep telling me they do not feel welcome here, so I do not like going down there etiher..

It just hurts is all, I am just glad that day is over and I do not have to deal with it for at least another year, and it wont be anywhere but here next year and the year after..

[LadyDragus]

i wish it was this easy as we write about it on here.

They are the only Great-grandparnent fiqures she has on her "bilogial dad's " side of the fiamly and I do nto want to take that fully away from her, unless she says I no longer want to see them, if she says that, then I will do what my child ask but since she is only 3 I can only do what she wants for the moment..
She loves them, and the grandparents do love her a great deal, I see that in their hearts and eyes..

[(JD)]

((((hugs))) to my favorite dragon.

Quit going down there. You are only reinforcing their desires.

If, after not going there, for a while... they still don't come to you, then suggest a neutral place to spend time together...

[LadyDragus]

that sounds like a good idea, I may try that ..

I think I will..
I do not go down very often.. Jessica goes down once a week, but I hardly ever go down.. and after Tuesday I wont be going down for a very very long time..

They hurt me beyond words this time.. They got her things They should not have gotten, and I am very upset about it.. but oh well, that is normall

[jmo531]

(((((((((((((((((((lady))))))))))))))))))))))

[LadyDragus]

Thank you I need these hugs .. more than you know

[(JD)]

<font color="orange"> ((((((((((((((((Dragon HUGS)))))))))))))</font> special just for you.

[Hope4me2]

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{[Lady}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}
take care thinking of you

[LadyDragus]

I have been feeling better these last few days.. which is a good thing..

Today so far has been really good for me..
I hope it continues to be that way..

Thank you

[LadyDragus]

thank you my darling <font color="blue"> ((((((((((((((((((((((( SKY )))))))))))))))))))))))))))) </font>

[heatherm]

((((((((((((Trish)))))))))))))

I've been missing you too hun.....thinking of you today and hoping that things are better for you today.

Special hugs (((((((((Trish))))))))))

xoxo

[severelyunhinged]

I hope you feel better too LD.

(((((LD)))))

[wisewoman]

Happy late birthday to the little one, hmmm, bubbles and playdough and playmobil. Can I come play?

[LadyDragus]

yes you can come on over anytime.. she would love to have more people to play with..

she loves to play with bubbles, in her little wadding pool..