[Confused_1982]

Why does no one like me. Why am I never good enough. Why does no one listen. Why does no one notice me. Why am I always alone and lonely. Why does no one take me seriously. What did I ever do to them to make them hate me. HOw much more can I take.

I guess if you're using the depression forum, you do/have felt this way, but I need to know Im not the only person feeling like this.

[NuckingFutz]

You are not alone. As time goes by you will learn that this is your depression talking. You will also learn that your depression will go away and come back. That you will always have a safe and supportive place to come to. Hang in there.

[Puffyprue]

yeah you not alone iam with you..like nuckingfutz had said it comes and go...hanging there ..hugs..

[paddym22]

No now are most certainly not alone and there are many of us in and out of depression on a regular basis that ask the questions you are asking right now, why? But you know depression is cyclical, it doesnt last forever and you will feel good again, honestly. Keep posting the depression forum is the right one to post in and we are all with you

hello, Confused_1982. Spend some time here: http://psychcentral.com/lib/2009/15-...e-distortions/

and here: http://cognitive-psychology.suite101...ve_distortions

[thine_self_untrue]

(((((((((Confused_1982)))))))))))
You're not the only one to ever ask those "why" questions, but that doesn't make it anymore fun. I hope things get better for you soon.

[garden]

Hi Confused. You're not alone. I come here to gather my thoughts, strengthen and immerse myself so that I can continue growing. As the ohers have said, some days are up and others are down. Keep reaching out.

[trying to]

I am the same too but it has helped talking with others on here, lets hang on together.

[BashfullOne]

Confused, as you have read, we all have had those thoughts and continue at times to have them again and again... It's the depression talking. Things seem bleak right now, but believe me you will have some better days. I take one day at a time - I don't think ahead as I can't handle it. One day at a time.... Today I feel great. Tomorrow is tomorrow, and I hope my good day continues.

Like they said, you are not alone - you have us and we love you. Keep posting - don't ever be afraid to post. We're all here to help one another - Let us lift you up! ((((Confused))))

Did you read about the distortions, Confused_1982?

[Confused_1982]

Thanks everyone I am glad I am not alone

Thebyzantine- yes I read the links- they are similar to other articles I have read, however, I dont believe its all just my thoughts- things are actually happening- like people not wanting to know me. Its just all getting on top of me right now. When I am in this frame of mind nothing seems to get through. I am seeing t this week so have lots to talk to him about.

[englishteacher]

Talk to your T and don't be so hard on yourself. We are all here for you. We all ask those questions sometimes...

[Ygrec23]

Originally Posted by Confused_1982

Why does no one like me. Why am I never good enough. Why does no one listen. Why does no one notice me. Why am I always alone and lonely. Why does no one take me seriously. What did I ever do to them to make them hate me. HOw much more can I take.

Originally Posted by Confused_1982

I guess if you're using the depression forum, you do/have felt this way, but I need to know Im not the only person feeling like this.

Starting with your last statement, Confused, as everyone below has already said, you are certainly not alone in feeling the way you do. The large majority in this forum have felt like that at one time or another, some all the time. Many have found their way out of the maze, and their examples and advice can help you if you pay close attention and work hard at it.

Then we get to your first paragraph, the "why" paragraph, and I'm going to make a guess. I would guess that you walk around "radiating" neediness, communicating neediness in your tone of voice, your body language, your facial expressions, what you actually say, your choice of conversational subjects, etc. I've been that way too. Guess what? Most people don't care for "needy" people. Most people believe they have enough problems of their own and are just not willing to take on someone else's (except for us here and therapists).

I think that until you give up your neediness, you're going to have a socially rotten time. And you don't really NEED your neediness; you're an adult, not a baby. Sure, it's nice to have friends on whom you can rely, frequent positive feedback, smiles from strangers, etc. But YOU'LL GET THEM when you lose your neediness. Paradoxical, eh? Try to go around with a smile and when you meet people, ask yourself what THEY need, and give it to them! A pat on the back? A word of encouragement? A serious listen to their current problem? Then they'll be there for you.