I miss my kids

I am so upset this evening my daughter is having such a rough time...she is so depressed and wants to come home to Canada. She has been in her father's country since she was 10 now she is 25. The country is a Muslim country and she and her brother have been taken by there father 15 yrs ago and is now of age and has been trying to come home ..it is so difficult when you are a women and have no help from your government because they cannot intervene with there laws!!!!!!! But at the same time she has been trying to leave and is getting desperate..our country told me the only way is with her father's help or there is no help unless she can escape....this has been the whole reason why I suffer depression, PTSD, anxiety it has been going on fo so long ...I am at my wits end..it is taking a tole. There is no help and I am so sad I want to die but I know I cannot for in case they need me. I have been in contact with her for 3 yrs now but now it is desperate again..she does not get along with her father who remarried 6 months age...she never did get along with him..she married a man frm her country to get out but he turned out like her father now he they fight all the time and he denounced her as his wife and has nowhere to go. So much more to say but crying is taking a tole...sorry guys

I hope everything works out for both of your sakes. There has to be a way for her to come back to Canada. Don't give up. Doesn't she have duel citizenship that would allow her to come back to Canada on her own free-will? I don't really know how Muslim countries work, but I do know women aren't really respected from what I can tell.

Does your daughter have a passport? Is there any way for her to just secretly get a flight?
I'm sorry, I don't know what is involved. I read a story recently though about a girl in a similar situation and she DID eventually escape by fooling her dad, saying she was going to some other country for part of her job she'd just started, so he agreed, and she really flew back to England. There are lots of people who escape, please have hope. I imagine you must have contacted everyone possible to seek advice, so I'm really sorry I can't suggest anywhere for you to go.

Do you know what is actually stopping her from getting a flight? Do they not allow women to travel without the father's permission?

thank-you, unfortunatly in the country there in you cannot have dual citizenship you would be considered a trader....which is against the law. She cannot get a passport because she needs her husbands permission to get one.....her father refused her a passport before she got married and my country suggested the only way is to wrap her up in a rug and get her out or escape which is so dangerous if she was to get caught they would throw her in jail and God knows what else...it's just so hard because she tells me the things that go on and how bad things are and how she wants to come home..it's just so frustrating.

You are so right about this country..it is very modern in many ways but yet it can be right out the dark ages where women are merely no better than the animals they keep. If I was to hire a mercinery it might help but where do find those....just need to vent it's upsetting just sitting here unable to help her....ugh so mad!

I can't even imaging how horrible this whole situation is for you, I'm so sorry hun. I know you can't do anything to really help, but I'm sure you do help her just being there for her, on the end of a phone. To have someone on her side, wanting her to escape and her knowing that you will be waiting for her always, I'm sure that reassures her so much and keeps her going. I'm sure she will find a way, it is possible because other people have managed it. She's right not to risk doing it illegally if it means ending up in jail, that could be even worse than right now. Is there anyone she can go to on her end who helps people in this situation?
I wish you all a lot of luck, I do hope things work out. I'm glad you feel able to come and vent about it here, it's important not to keep it in. x

I wonder if Amnesty International would be of any help...

http://www.amnesty.org/en/contact

the organization is probably too big but they do campaign for women's rights.

valfor, perhaps calling the offices of your Provincial Representatives might help?