Extremely depressed

I did the most stupid thing and got intimate with a co-worker. We had been flirting for months and we ended up going out one night and one thing lead to another. He still talks to me but not in the same way. I feel stupid, used and humiliated. I can't stop crying. I am seeing a therapist but I live alone and I think about this guy constantly. I can't get him out of my head. I am getting angry now that he hasn't contacted me. It is so hard having to see him at work every day. Has anyone been through anything similar?

Hello & Welcome, Dreamer4ever! I cannot address your question, but somewhere around this site is a Relationships Forum, which could supply you with examples and insights.

No need to answer any question you don't want to...

• Have you been formally diagnosed with depression?
• Did the relationship you describe begin while you were depressed?

If I were you I'd try to cut off contact with him and it may be hard to see him every day, but hopefully with passing time it'll get easier.

I'm sorry this happened to you, it must be a very awkward situation to be in.

Hi & Welcome, Dreamer4ever. I'm new here also.. This is my first reply to someone.. Just want to say that I've been there and it is not a place you want to be. Try to distance yourself from him don't let it go any further. When I went through it all I could think of was him but all he thought about was himself.. It was not a healthy relationship and ended badly. I got over it but it wasn't easy.
If he contacts you and you do get more involved with him, talk to your therapist about helping you to lay out some ground rules for yourself and with him.

Thank you everyone. I have to see him every day. I saw him today and we talked for a while but it was polite chit chat. I miss all of the flirting we used to do. It just makes me wonder what is so wrong with me that he is already over me. I really didn't think he was looking for a one night stand since we talked about that and I told him that was not what I was looking for. He said he wasn't either. I guess he lied. I am also very mad and upset that he is friends with almost everyone from work on Facebook but me. I'm so worried I am going to blow up one day. I will check out the relationship forum.

Yes, I have been diagnosed as being depressed and I was depressed when this whole thing started but he made me feel so good!

I dont know if im the best at giving advice but.....here it goes...... There are some people in the world that just suck. They are selfish and self centered and they dont really have a good point in living. I think you met one of those people. I understand if you feel used but i dont want you to think of that so much. Hes is lucky he had you for one night. Dont be so hard on yourself. You were looking for affection in the wrong place. If he cant see something awesome in front of him then screw him. He sounds like an idiot anyway. You dont need to be around that. It sucks that he works with you though. I mean, you cant quit your job......that seems like the only way around it but the more you think about him the more its gonna affect you at work. You have to think about yourself instead of him. Hes nothing but a coworker and a descent lay.

Thank you and yes, he does suck! I am so angry I want to scream at him. You have no idea how hard it is getting to keep it together at work.