[Naturefreak]

Did you ever notice how some family members don't notice you exist until it effects them in some way and then there's a big sudden interest ?

[Evon]

Yes, that can sometimes happen. However you have to understand, that they may not even have realised you were having trouble, until it affected them so it brings there attention to it. If they are then trying to help you a lot they probably do care for you.
Sometimes though even family just don't know eachother very well, unfortunately. But if you are having problems you can talk to us.

[Naturefreak]

Originally Posted by Evon

Yes, that can sometimes happen. However you have to understand, that they may not even have realised you were having trouble, until it affected them so it brings there attention to it. If they are then trying to help you a lot they probably do care for you.
Sometimes though even family just don't know eachother very well, unfortunately. But if you are having problems you can talk to us.

Not in this case . Sorry . They certainly realize it and probably were hoping I did something foolish.

[googley]

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[Fuzzybear]

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[lorna]

Naturefreak,
I have never needed ,like really depended on anyone until now. So this is my opinion of my experience, ...I truly think people are selfish, out for themselves and what can get them ahead in this world. Sounds cruel but true.

[Rhiannonsmoon]

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Yes know it well. I used to have a family, the best part died. The rest of them deliberately rode me and contributed to my poor mental health in bucket loads.

I will never understand how they get their kicks from doing that either, I have to say with honesty that I don't love any of the ones who are left, they don't deserve all the things I did for them, the money I gave them, the support or help. When I look back on it all I was simply used because I could be because I so wanted to be part of them.

I'm free now, but the anger hasn't left me yet.... I hope it does soon because I just don't like it. I much prefer the peace which lives in the centre of my being....

Love and Hugs to you my dear friend, you deserve much better and you will find it, because you are a really good man,

Rhiannon

[lonegael]

Naturefreak, there are just people who can't be bothered with more than the own, tiny world, and even that is more than they can handle. The tend to leach off of whoever will let them and "Not notice" when others need their help. I'm soo sorry that those people are in your life right now. Their behavior says way more about them than it does about you, dear man. They are like horseflies; hurtfull, annoying and insignificant. HUGGGGGGGSSSSSSSSS!!!!

[goldielocks]

naturefreak, i agree with most others here and have only ever relied on myself. my husband doesn't even know how bad i really am at times. he doesn't understand depression and after 30yrs i don't bother him with it. i see a therapist and come here and talk with others who understand depression. i have helped family with money and then been treated appallingly. i have had to cut them out of my life.
at the beginning of this year after a five yr friendship - originally started online - dissolved because i didn't like the way i was being treated. over the yrs i had sent the said person, birthday gifts, christmas gifts, care packages (as they don't live in oz) knitted woollen beanies and gloves for their cold winter. when he was in oz i picked him up from the airport, always picked him up and took him if he wanted to go anywhere, took him to lunch etc. this was never reciprocated. i started to wise up when he said to me (and it sounds petty but after 5 yrs of abuse ) i added so and so to my facebook because they have only ever been nice to me. i asked him why he hadn't added me and he stuttered and stammered and started to yell and scream at me that it wasn't all about me! i then went and took it out on myself. i won't go into that part i feel ashamed. i am my best friend and i can only ever rely on me. sad but true.
xx

[SophiaG]

Originally Posted by lorna

Naturefreak,
I truly think people are selfish, out for themselves and what can get them ahead in this world. Sounds cruel but true.

I agree with this...

[owen2110]

Yes, that is the way it works. My wife of 19 years didn't realize how bad my depression was for over a year. That's when I sort of gave up trying to keep it under control.