[Peanut61]

There's some bullying going on here, and I'm not liking it at all. I get that it seems all in great fun, but someone who is potentially unstable is at the other end of this, and even if that person may be thought to 'have it coming as a dose of their own medicine, etc.,', it is still WRONG to engage in it. Please let's stop all of us, review our respective actions, and remember our humanity in our conduct from here on, OK? Sincerely, Peanut

<font color=blue>HI FROM PEANUT</font color=blue>

[kvinneakt]

Yes, Peanut.....

I will drag my sorry @55 into the corner...



Wherever you go, there you are

[SeptemberMorn]

Jill, it may not seem very nice to you, but sometimes you have to fight fire with fire. I could see something drastic coming of this dissruption we've had. Sometimes kindness and understanding are lost on some folks.

<font color=blue>This above all: To thine own self be true. --Shakespeare</font color=blue>

[SeptemberMorn]

{{{{{{Kvin}}}}}} No such thing! Your ***** isn't sorry!!

What you guys did was close ranks just like a good, tight family should!

<font color=blue>This above all: To thine own self be true. --Shakespeare</font color=blue>

[ltlredvett]

Peanut, your point is well taken. I just think that many people were insulted as to think that someone could hijack this board for their own twisted mind games.

You have reminded us that these actions are not what is in someone's heart but they are a symptom of their illness. No one should understand that more than I. For I was the one that got on my soapbox to say that people with mental illnesses were treated differently. Now, here I am doing the same thing to someone else.

I guess your comment opened my eyes to the reality that people can jump to conclusions about you based upon your actions. The only thing I will say in my defense and the defense of others is that even with mental illness we need to be held accountable for our actions. We can't use the illness as a crutch to behave in ways that is not acceptable.

I will leave well enough alone. Thanks for keeping us grounded.

[heidu]

Well said Peanut. Thanks for saying something.
We all have a choice if we want the board to be "hijacked" or disrupted. We can ignore if we choose to.
We don't have to fight. There is no need. Just don't click on the post :O)
Heidu

The highest reward for a person's toil is not what they get for it, but what they become by it.
John Ruskin

[somebodyelse]

This is a bit off-topic, but I have a newbie's question. I've seen @55 and *****. Is this forum really that strict about language?

Thanks,
Julie

[darkeyes]

Post deleted by darkeyes "here we go again"
Happy now heidu?

[heidu]

yepper :O/
It's a respect thing I guess. That's ok though I think. Makes it nice for everyone.
Heidu

The highest reward for a person's toil is not what they get for it, but what they become by it.
John Ruskin

[kvinneakt]

It is family rated. Nothing you would not share with your grandmother.

Wherever you go, there you are

[darkeyes]

It's wired into the system, and it probably is a great feature, even though it can be frustrating, I think it is good, kind of helps us all "behave", ha!ha!
Welcome aboard

In giving advice seek to help, not please your friend
SOLON

[darkeyes]

I am laughing cause my 94 y,o, grandma can do a good job cussing sometimes but it is all in fun, wish y'all could meet her

In giving advice seek to help, not please your friend
SOLON

[heidu]

What do you mean "here we go again"? Not trying to start a fight but I am just wondering why you only said that.
Heidu

The highest reward for a person's toil is not what they get for it, but what they become by it.
John Ruskin

[darkeyes]

I understand you here, but there has been a lot of behind the scenes things going on if you are referring to what I think you are, if you knew what they were you may think a little differently, though yes I really understand your point as well.
With hope it will be gone soon and all of us can move on

BTW I say "peek-a-boo" to the one behind your blue couch

** hugs of hope **
"darkeyes"

In giving advice seek to help, not please your friend
SOLON

[darkeyes]

Oh heidu, nothing to get upset about, no fights, nothing, just a "little lighter side" comment, hoping all will be over soon, that's all kiddo

But decided to delete it so it doesn't upset you or anyone else
I'll make no further comments on this, I'll just mosey on along and crawl back into my "space"

In giving advice seek to help, not please your friend
SOLON

[somebodyelse]

Good to know. Thanks!

Julie

[heidu]

Ok, cool, just wasn't sure what you meant.
:O)

The highest reward for a person's toil is not what they get for it, but what they become by it.
John Ruskin

[somebodyelse]

Thanks!

[mj14]

Peanut, you are a very sweet and compassionate person, and I hope you never change. I will never be as compassionate as you, because the truth of it is, I feel that Lou was bullying others. And as a moderator, I felt attacked and insulted by his comments regarding the moderators, and by his complete unwillingness to engage in civil discourse. I am grateful to those who attempted to show the absurdity of his posts, because in my opinion, they were sticking up for me.

I am sorry...as I said, I am not as compassionate as you. But I also wanted to make sure that those who you scolded here realize that I, for one, was grateful for their replies.

mj

[LMo]

Peanut - you are absolutely right - thank you for reminding me of the person I want to be.

This is not really about the teasing, but one thing... I believe that not clicking on his posts would have been futile... he interjected into Fuzzy's topic about "a picture of your depression" with a lead-in to his cure for addiction and depression without drugs. It had nothing to do with Fuzzy's question. I deleted his post (yes, it was me) because I had read some of his posts on another mental health forum, and was concerned about the direction I was afraid Fuzzy's thread would take. Just so y'all know... it really wasn't a concern about non-medically-sanctioned treatment... I just couldn't think of a better way to phrase it. So, my concern is that other people's threads would get just as disrupted as Fuzzy's wuz (lol). Most of us are here for serious support, and my personal belief is that those who are asking for serious support should be given full attention -- the posts not diverted into a discussion about how we can cure ourselves.

Most of us are not mental health experts, except with regard to ourselves. We can listen, we can share experiences, but preaching isn't cool. I haven't seen it happen here before now, but that's where it was going.

We DO have a great family here - and I am always impressed at how many members here jump to welcome newcomers. The moderators rarely intervene. Just so you know, while the other post was developing a life of its own, the mods were frantically trying to figure out the best way to handle it without hurting his feelings or being unfair or biased. I'm sure Lou feels we were out to get him, but believe me -- but we really tried to give him a chance to participate here. It was pretty insulting to be distrusted and accused of a "moderator conspiracy" (thanks Vett, for sticking up for us, by the way), as if we were The Man -- or that we are secret double agents for a pharmaceutical company -- but hey, it said more about him than it does about any of us. I have very rarely seen the moderators censor anything - most of the time, you'd never even know they were moderators, except for the little M below their names. Just supportive, caring friends, who need our support as much as we need theirs.

I'm done - sorry - had to get it out.

LMo

ps - I was really enjoying your thread about "a picture" until the detour, Fuzzy - can we start another one and pretend all the nonsense hadn't happened? It really was a great thread!!!

We are ALL going to be a-ok!

[nowheretorun]

I don't care for bullying very much either.... How are you Peanut?

"Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but rising every time we fall." Confucius

[LadyDragus]

I normally do not take side when others are in the middle of a fight, but look leaeve the dude or dudet alone, let him/her have there sick fun, and just go on about our lives and let them be..

WE do not have to click on there post, nor do we have to respond. I know I responed to the one of his post, and mine never showed up.. Funny huh???
But i do nto care.

If someoen new comes to this site, we should not "batter" them into a corner, or anything else.
We should let them say there peice and go on about our own buisness.
unless the person ask all for help..

I am not the lest imperssed about how bad this has turned out with Doc John on his honeymoon ???

Bad Bad

<font color=purple>The way to love anything is to realize that it might be lost.
- G.K. Chesterton
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LD,
I am new here and do not know the operation and administration of the site.
Please forgive me if I violated some custom here about threads for I saw that the topic was depression and thought that my post belonged in that thread. In other forums it is not an issue raised for a post to talk about something other than just one thing and I did not know that the custom here was as you describe. Being as that is, I can abide by that custom from here on and hope that we can be discussants in other threads and forgive in this matter.
Lou

[nowheretorun]

Thank you Lady D.

"Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but rising every time we fall." Confucius

[LadyDragus]

of course we can.

That is why I mentiond it.
It is not persay I "rule" but just a guideline that we all use.
Start a new therad if you really need to talk about somthing differnt. Others sometiems do not do that, and it takes away from the general puporse of the "posters" desier. Which this site is dediacated to eveyone who needs help and who is deperssed..


<font color=purple>The way to love anything is to realize that it might be lost.
- G.K. Chesterton
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