Not doing good today

I've been having difficulties the past couple of years with declining friendships which caused me to have low self esteem and to feel constantly on edge as to whether people like me or not. I just feel very alone all the time, probably from the fact that I don't have a strong connection with anyone in my life. I do have a boyfriend but he cannot provide me with all the emotional needs I need. I'm the type that needs girlfriends, and the ones that I have just aren't that close with me. I'm 29 years old and I just wish I had a best friend. I'm a very open person and I am not known to have walls around me. I'm honest about my feelings and don't mind sharing my life with others. I guess that's what makes it more difficult..the fact that you can offer so much but not everyone will choose you to be the one where they want to offer that to you as well.

I know people say to meet new people etc. but it's not that easy b/c the opportunities are not always there and I'm at the age where a lot of people I know are already in certain cliques. I do make a huge effort to hang out with different friends but nothing goes beyond just a friend/acquaintance connection. Also, I'm at the age where people are getting married, having kids, so establishing a new connection or bond with someone is not always a top priority for people. It's been like this for two years and I have made an effort but I'm just not getting anywhere and I just feel super lonely.

It's sad when people do love and care about you but you will never be a #1 to anyone. I wish I had a best friend that I can just call up to chat or to hang out with me and they do the same with me. Usually it's me reaching out and they always receive me well, but they just never care to do the same with me. It's very one sided that way.

Today is just really hard for me. I just feel really alone and I wish people would need me as much as I need them...

i'm sorry. I feel the same way. Im in my 20's too & i see my peers progressing and connected and enjoying life...meanwhile im just here ...One interesting & safe place where ive felt slightly less alone was church. Not sure what ur religious backround is, yet i do see many places of worship have opportunities to hang out w/groups of people your own age (youth groups, young adult groups, small groups etc.) And with me and church, there is some peace in being close to God, sometimes :embarassed: I am okay with being alone sometimes, but your last paragraph is SO true...i dont know how to deal with these feelings of loneliness either. We've both probably heard of the suggestions of "appreciating what you do have", and "dont compare yourself to others". Yet there are still days like today. know that you are not alone with this, k?

Hello, enajmil. Yes, friends are important. I do not know what the answer is. Loneliness is a curse for many. Please do not think you are the problem.

Be assured you are a valuable person here.