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Nov 11, 2010, 09:26 PM
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I STILL haven't learned how to make friends, how to get over my fears or lack of energy to reach out. It's hard. And it makes things harder.
My trust issues don't help... *sigh*
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Nov 11, 2010, 11:09 PM
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(((turquoisesea)))
Wow, I can relate... I haven't been very good at making friends either since I moved 2 years ago - although the "meetup" groups have at least been an opportunity to get out. Did you ever try those? It is hard... especially with depression. I hope you won't be too hard on yourself. I think the best thing to do is just to keep taking care of you. I know it sounds odd but I think this is kind of even more important? It's like... the rest will follow? Idk. I just think that if we focus on taking care of ourselves then as we feel better it won't feel so hard to chat with others and the "getting to know you" stuff... Sending caring and supportive thoughts your way.  E
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Nov 12, 2010, 01:39 AM
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(((((((((turquoisesea))))))))))
short on words lately but i have as many hugs as you need 
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Nov 12, 2010, 01:08 PM
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Yes, I can relate to. It's one thing that contributes to the "domino effect" of depression, in my opinion. Catch 22.
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Nov 12, 2010, 02:19 PM
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Nov 12, 2010, 03:16 PM
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((((((turq))))))) it takes time. be kind to yourself about this. those of us that have trust issues do understand.
try to think about why you are nervous when you try to make friends. maybe that will help you determine if the fear is real or not.
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Nov 12, 2010, 07:06 PM
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((((((((((((((( turquoisesea )))))))))))))))
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Nov 12, 2010, 07:49 PM
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Quote:
((((((( Turquoisesea! ))))))) As you need, give voice to your loneliness. We'll be reading and feeling with you.
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My dog mastered the "fetch" command. He would communicate he wanted something, and I would fetch it.
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Nov 21, 2010, 01:43 AM
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When you are depressed life is hard enough, but being depressed takes our energy and leaves a foggy mind. This makes being social very hard and we have to try hard to make friends, more than other people. Also some of us stopped trusting people for one reason or another and this contributes to making friends hard for us. Try to do something nice for someone and this might lead to a new friend. Forget about yourself and do nice things for others and they will want you to be their friend. Good Luck
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