 |
| FAQ/Help |
| Calendar |
| Search |
|
#1
Feb 24, 2011, 07:47 AM
|
||||
|
||||
|
I am really feeling horrible. No matter what I do it is wrong. I asked my sister for $20 to buy a bus pass so I can get to school until my student loan comes in. She went off horrible on me. She chastized me, belittled me, and told me I was causing problems not just in her marriage but also with my father. That was 3 days ago. I know this is stupid but facebook is my only communication with my friends and family right now. It is all that I have. She has gone so far as to block me. This was not good enough- her next move was to post it on her home page so all my family members can see it. She has also been in contact with my bestfriend of 10 years telling her how horrible of a person I am. Now none of my relatives are talking to me either. I do feel that she is compounding the situation- if not trying to sabatoge me. Not that there is anything left to sabatage.
This has set off such emotions that I felt like I was going to have a stroke during the night. I just can't seem to get over this hump of everything going wrong. I am feeling like I have lost complete control in my relationship, coping, and living skills. My family is everything to me and all I have right now. I feel like I am losing that too. I am feeling so incompetent and stupid right now. The stress does not help much either.
__________________
 Puddles120710
|
|
#2
Feb 24, 2011, 11:33 AM
|
||||
|
||||
|
I'm sorry things are so stressful for you right now. It sounds like your sister overreacted. All this over 20$? She must have some deeper issues.
Do you have a way to get to school now? You are neither incompetent nor stupid. Sometimes, for whatever reason, everything just seems to pile up on us. Do you have anyone left to talk to? 
__________________
As she draws her final breath Just beyond the door he'll find her Taking her hand he softly says For the first time you can open your eyes And see the world without your sorrow Where no one knows the pain you left behind And all the peace you could never find Is waiting there to hold and keep you Welcome to the first day of your life Just open up your eyes as I lay you down tonight Safe on the other side No more tears to cry |
|
#3
Feb 24, 2011, 01:49 PM
|
||||
|
||||
|
Quote:
I have figured out a way to get to classes until my loan arrives. As far as being able to talk to anyone, PC is the only place for me to vent right now. It will work out I know it will. It always does. It is just difficult to handle at the moment.
__________________
Puddles120710
|
|
#4
Feb 24, 2011, 01:59 PM
|
||||
|
||||
|
Good, at least you're getting to your classes. You have a good attitude, that things will work out in the end. It can be really hard to stay positive when things get so overwhelming.
__________________
As she draws her final breath Just beyond the door he'll find her Taking her hand he softly says For the first time you can open your eyes And see the world without your sorrow Where no one knows the pain you left behind And all the peace you could never find Is waiting there to hold and keep you Welcome to the first day of your life Just open up your eyes as I lay you down tonight Safe on the other side No more tears to cry |
 puddles120710
|
|
#5
Feb 25, 2011, 04:57 PM
|
||||
|
||||
|
(((Puddles)))
You need some support around you. Problems with life skills, for example, are much easier to tackle when you have a support group around you, like procrastinators anonymous (Haven't heard of them? Gee, they will be announcing forming the group and a first meeting later) No one trains for marathon alone. Honestly, families rarely are up to that task, they usually feel they "had it" with your <whatever> and they get emotional, like your sister. Though she went overboard with it, way over. I would encourage you to seek such support groups, maybe through your college, maybe through some other community groups. First, it helps to see that other people, seemingly soooo much better at life are having the same problems, and then you get to get motivation and support when you think like you are now, that you can't make it. And when this blows over, as it will, they will calm down and be there for you too, and be really pleased to see you trying to help yourself, and support you too. |
|
#6
Feb 26, 2011, 08:44 AM
|
||||
|
||||
|
So sorry to hear about your struggle but glad you haven't thrown in the towel. Ditto Sunna's suggestion re joining a support group. Having face to face interaction may really help you get over this hump. With regards to your sister and family, sometimes families don't understand the nature of the illness, they don't know how to cope with it, so they get frustrated. It's unfortunate that your sister reacted that way and I know it hurts, but forgive them all and keep looking for the kind of support that will help you get well.
Big hugs friend 
|
|
#7
Feb 26, 2011, 11:07 AM
|
||||
|
||||
|
It sounds like you're holding up quite well, puddles; I'm glad! I'm sorry to hear how your sister overreacted -- and it does indeed sound like a big, upsetting overreaction. I agree with whenwillitend; there likely are some deeper issues there.
Hang in there!  And please keep us updated.
__________________
No one respects the flame quite like the fool who's badly burned—Pete Townshend A beach is a place where a man can feel / he's the only soul in the world that's real—The Who, Bell Boy |
| Reply |
This is an old thread. You probably should not post your reply to it, as the original poster is unlikely to see it.|
|
My Support Forums is the online community that was originally begun as the Psych Central Forums in 2001. It now runs as an independent self-help support group community for mental health, personality, and psychological issues and is overseen by a group of dedicated, caring volunteers from around the world.
Linear Mode
