[MonicaU1985]

My Fiancee seems to be in a deep state of depression, Yesterday he said he felt worthless and unimportant we were shopping and he disappeared he called and said to go on without him he was going to sit under a tree. After about 2minutes of trying to get him to calm down he hung up and shut his phone off. I contacted his mother seeing as I was with my 3yearold and I am expecting his child any week now I needed help to find him. We found him walking toward the interstate he said he wanted to jump out in traffic. He said he doesnt feel right he always has a lump in his chest and its hard to breathe sometimes and he just wants to feel normal his mother wanted to take him to the hospital since he use to be on medication for anxiety a while back. When we got about to the entrance of the hospital he said he was calming down and didnt want to go to the hospital seeing as he had no insurance he just wanted to talk so we went out and he talked about all his feelings for a good hour. We decided to go home and he said he felt better. This morning he was trying to play a game on his computer and it froze so he smashed the keyboard and started throwing his computer and all his electronics away which happens to be one of his joys in life he works on computers and electronics and now he wants to throw it all out he even wants to give up playing guitar. I don't know what to do anymore I want my fiancee back. There has been two life changes for him 1. He quit drinking about two months ago, and 2.His first child is on the way.

[Rohag]

Hello & Welcome, MonicaU1985!

Originally Posted by MonicaU1985

My Fiancee seems to be in a deep state of depression...

Yes, he certainly does seem to be in crisis. Given his state, you or his mother may have to contact services in his behalf. You can always talk to a crisis counselor and tell them the situation. In the US, 2-1-1 may lead you to social and non-crisis resources.

Crisis Resources

PsychCentral's Suicide and Crisis links page
Doc John's Suicide Resources short list
Metanoia
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK
Suicide Prevention, Awareness, and Support
Lynn P.’s Concise List of Crisis Advice

Non-Emergency Help

United Way / AIRS Home – 211.org [AIRS = Alliance for Information and Referral Systems]
211.org Call Center Search

Even with everything going on with your fiancé, please prioritize looking after yourself, your child and the life you are carrying.

[online user]

It's a good sign he was able to quit drinking. He is probably full of anxiety now, though, and the responsibilities of being a parent may be overwhelming. Do try to get him to counselingl, whatever it may cost. There may be community health resources available on a sliding scale basis, based on income which may be affordable. You don't know till you look. Do encourage him to also post here and see if he can get some help. Encourage him to adopt an identity unknown to you so you won't know which posts are his and he can get some independent help from others.

Good luck to you both!

[noneedtoknow]

Monica1985
Just another thought-did your fiance quit drinking on his own or is he involved with a recovery group? When a person quits drinking he no longer has his "medication" and cover for feelings and emotions. And it can be quite intense. You might want to encourage him to look into a support group like AA-that could help alot. It is not just about quitting drinking, but a way to live. Good luck to you all!