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#1
Mar 17, 2011, 03:26 PM
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I feel hopeless...
I am crying right now, no body is with me to support me in this world.... Sorry forgot to tell you, I am male, 21 year old, I am only son, my father had expired when I was 5. I am holding all responsibility to mind my home financially... Ok i try to stop crying.... Actually I am just tired of struggling with my career. my mom and my girlfriend is not understanding me, I feel like looser sometime... I quit my job to make my own business. I am enough capable to mind it but I can not handle this pressure from my gf. No doubt she loves me but she is immature, not getting that if she could not support me then ok but at least she should not torture me when I am doing my work. I dot know what to do... I am not brave enough to leave her because I seriously love her, I have already threaten her so many times that I will quit the relationship but things became same in few days.... I am very ambitious person, I have dream to become multy millionaire before my 30 and I have plan in my mind and ready to follow it. But I think these all hurdles can put me down... Help me please... I know you may told me either to leave them or to make them understand my problem. but may be their problems are not that bigger if I am not struggling for my career.... Any guidance on how to be +ve and just concentrate on my goal ?? I don't know this is depression or not, even I don't what is happening to me... I think I am not psycho, just a sensitive person with dreams in mind may be... So, what should I do now ?? |
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Mar 17, 2011, 04:58 PM
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Hello, Neonirav!
It is possible that the turmoil in your life could be contributing to the onset of depression. Only a professional, however, can give you a diagnosis of depression. Quote:
Whether or not you are clinically depressed, it is difficult to make friends and family understand how you are feeling. It is perhaps more important for you to figure out your own desires and needs now. Do you have access to any other people where you live who could help you talk and think through what you are facing?
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Mar 17, 2011, 05:07 PM
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Wow, for 21 you have a lot on your plate.. No wonder you feel the way you do....Ease up a little for a while. Give yourself a mini vacation even if you stay alone in the house without answering the phone or texting......too much stress right now.
..You have got to lessen some of it to get some relief. You cannot do everything all at once. Its like a diet. You can't loose 60 pounds in one day. You are giving yourself goals that are too rigid..... Why not divide the goals up to short term goals. As you know we are our worst enemy! Thinking of you.....go easy!!!
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Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich The road to hell is paved with good intentions. "And psychology has once again proved itself the doofus of the sciences" Sheldon Cooper
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#4
Mar 17, 2011, 07:14 PM
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Thank you sir, yes, you are right, she is not understanding or may be not calculating my seriousness towards my goal. She continuously needs me and her continuous interference distract me. I am actually living with my mom because my father is not in this earth to support her, to take care of her. I can not leave my mom alone, she is my living god. sometime she got irritated by my girlfriend's continuous interference in my working hours. my gf considering her as her own mom but this situation can change the thing. this is also one (small but i think effective) parameter. Yes I have 2 very good friends. I share almost all things with them, EXCEPT THIS ONE.... I feel like failure to tell this thing, so I kept this thing to my own. Quote:
may be you are totally right but I am not made for vacation OR vacation is not made for me. I am not tired from my work but there external distracting parameters make me feel tired. Achievement is faaaaaar away, I can no take rest. I am much more mentally stronger except this emotional thing.... I do not want to mix up in billions of middle class family, I want to give a luxurious life to my family and for that, I need to do thing... May be I am wrong, but I feel like there is fire inside me, preventing me to stop, encouraging me to work hard, to be succeed... This is what I can not understand, " You can't loose 60 pounds in one day." If we talk about short term goal, I want to come out of 'the rat race' in 2 years... I am not getting the results as my expectation and may be that is the reason behind all frustration and depression.... But I feel good now... thanks to both of you, i share few things which I can not share with anybody... Thank you very much.... May be I just need a voice telling me,"everything gonna be alright. don't worry, you can do this. I am with you, I trust you. you can do this." And may be I will get what I want ASAP... But thanks for your support, thank you very much... |
 Rohag
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Mar 17, 2011, 09:47 PM
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I would be concerned that you're putting too much pressure on yourself to be successful quickly. The stress could work against you. If you set up extremely high expectations, and can't meet them, it could cause your self-esteem to suffer, and interfere with your goals. I'd hope that you can do your work toward goals, but in a way that allows kindness and mercy toward yourself.
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Mar 17, 2011, 11:54 PM
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Will try to implement it... |
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Mar 18, 2011, 12:11 AM
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After writing all the things over here,
I feel like I am short tempered and blunt or rude while I am talking to anybody... I don't know but I got angry in very first time I need to speak about any topic at home or in my mobile phone.... I was not this much blunt or rude before I share feelings over here.... Kind of aggression coming out and I cannot control it...
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