[whereisthelove0x]

i am literally at the point in my life where i dont know what to do. i make myself promise to stop cutting, to stop being so sad, to be more accepting of myself but i just cant seem to accept any of these things. i continue to cut, i continue to be miserable and i continue to hate myself. i dont know what to do. it feels so horrible knowing that anything i try to do to make myself better just isnt working. i hate it. i hate myself for not being able to be better. i dont know what to do. i dont even know who i turned into...

[Jazz91]

you are being to hard on yourself, instead of trying to stop the selfharm throw the self harm into something more helpful running helped for me i would push myself to the max until absolutely everything hurt then i felt better you just need to find a healthier release

[online user]

Read your post before I went out to dinner with hubby (we've been doing that far too often cuz I haven't felt like cooking & maintaining the kitchen). Was thinking about you, and what suggestions I could make to help.

I remember when I was going to weight-watchers and trying to lose weight. They gave us a page with 7-8 columns on it, for Days of the Week. Then there were all the hours in the day, running down the page, so 24 rows. The idea was, that for each hour you followed the diet plan, you colored that corresponding square in. So you ended up with lots of colored in squares where you were doing what you had decided you wanted for yourself. I found I wanted to be good, for maybe just another hour, so I could color in another square. Doing something like this, for avoiding one of the behaviors you want to stop might be helpful for you. Worth a try--if it's not too much effort when you are depressed. Then you could focus on all the time you are NOT doing that behavior, and feel better about yourself, than if you did slip once or twice. You might have to take a baby step, before you take a giant step.

The other thing I thought of, is maybe using a substitute behavior for the self-harm. Instead of cutting, why don't you put a rubber band around your wrist, and snap that if things really get bad and you feel you must do something.

Hope these suggestions help--or help spark your thinking of something else you can do to help make things better for you. Sending you some hugs!

[Leed]

Hi ~ Instead of self-harming, have you tried writing about your feelings? You could keep a journal every day. Write down everything you feel, see, think, etc. Then you can go back after awhile and read what you have written and see the progress you have made.

I've found that it does help to put feelings on paper, so you can SEE them. It brings them into focus and helps you deal with them better. Just an idea. Hugs, Lee

[Earl Sweatshirt]

Well, I'll say that you are not alone. I am in the exact same boat. I don't "cut," but I have made suicide attempts after going through a bunch of turmoil this year. Some obvious suggestions include: finding a good therapist/psychologist/psychiatrist.

Are there some things that you like to do in life? What brings you a lot of pleasure? I would follow the activities that give you the most satisfaction (provided they are healthy). For me, listening to music is one of those activities that gets me distracted...

I have some suggestions for you to try (all things I have tried).

1. Krill Oil - Supposed to help brain functioning and healthy thinking. I take it and feel like it has made me smarter.

2. Try a "30 Day Trial" of "No Cutting" - StevePavlina(DOT)com/blog/2005/04/30-days-to-success (copy and paste into your browser and replace the (DOT) with a period since I cannot post links yet, I'm a new member)

3. Exercising daily hard

4. Volunteering

5. If posting here/journaling when you feel bad helps, do it

6. Set a goal and work towards it

7. Make a list of alternative activities you can do besides "cutting" and refer to this list whenever you get the urge to cut. Force yourself to do something on the list to avoid the cutting.

8. Start reading a good book to distract yourself from feeling bad

9. Talk about your feelings with someone close that you trust

I'll admit I'm in a sh#tty situation, but I have tried A TON of sh#t and put forth a ton of hours to get better and nothing has worked well, but I have tried. If you try what's on this list, I think you'll be off to a great start. Especially that 30 day trial!

Originally Posted by whereisthelove0x

i am literally at the point in my life where i dont know what to do. i make myself promise to stop cutting, to stop being so sad, to be more accepting of myself but i just cant seem to accept any of these things. i continue to cut, i continue to be miserable and i continue to hate myself. i dont know what to do. it feels so horrible knowing that anything i try to do to make myself better just isnt working. i hate it. i hate myself for not being able to be better. i dont know what to do. i dont even know who i turned into...