[johnstamos]

So today i learned from my mom that she thinks my dad is cheating on her. She met with an old collegue of my dad while she was at work. He told her about my dad and his cheating. 2 years ago, my dad left our family to go to Las Vegas. He told us that it was because he had to earn more money there. So our family believed him. But today the collegue of my dad told my mom that. My dad left us to go with a woman to Las Vegas. He said that he was on the phone and said How could you leave your family for a woman? Are you crazy? And my dad replied "What can i do? I like her" and he left. And this man asked my mom for his contact because they have lost touch in 6 months. I am not the most charming kid. I'm 14. And i'm a big guy. My dad always says to lose weight. And he i trusted him. I'm not good at sharing my feelings, but i want to talk about this with someone. Our house is not financially safe. My mom works long hours at work. My dad barely provides for us. Recently no one has been able to contact his phone. I trusted my dad. I was accepted into a high school with the ability to be in a medical program because i want to be a doctor. but i gave that up for a public school because we have no money. Mean while my dad lives in vegas with a woman we don't know. WHAT DO I DO.... please.. help me. i want to scream and cry. we are supposed to be moving houses next week but my dad is not even answering his phone

[Rohag]

Hello & Welcome, Johnstamos!

Wow.

Originally Posted by johnstamos

I'm not good at sharing my feelings, but i want to talk about this with someone.

Good. You should talk about the whole situation with someone, hopefully someone who can help you express your feelings. Of course, you can talk with us here, but it would be great to have a real flesh-and-blood counselor you could talk to in person.

Originally Posted by johnstamos

WHAT DO I DO....

At 14 realize your power to influence affairs is limited, but you can alert people who may be able to help. 2-1-1 (United Way/AIRS) can serve as a starting place for folks in the US.

[Leed]

I'm so sorry John. I know how upsetting this must be. It hurts when we find out that our parents are "human" and make huge mistakes. We put all our trust in them, and then they do something like this to deflate our trust.

I do think it's very unfair for your Dad to be unavailable. He should keep his phone on and working so you can contact him.

It's possible this is just a mid-life crisis he's going thru. Maybe it will all blow over soon. But in the meantime, I know how hurt you are -- and your poor mother too!!!

Can you talk with a school counselor? I don't know if you've gone back to school after summer recess, but the school counselors are always available -- and I'm sure they could help you with this. They would be more than willing to speak with you, I'm sure. You need someone to talk to.

Many kids think that they are to blame when this kind of thing happens, but I hope you know that it has NOTHING to do with YOU. So if you've had any of those kinds of thoughts -- toss them out!

God bless & please take care. You sound like a very nice person. Hugs, Lee

[pamperedlady]

Originally Posted by johnstamos

So today i learned from my mom that she thinks my dad is cheating on her. She met with an old collegue of my dad while she was at work. He told her about my dad and his cheating. 2 years ago, my dad left our family to go to Las Vegas. He told us that it was because he had to earn more money there. So our family believed him. But today the collegue of my dad told my mom that. My dad left us to go with a woman to Las Vegas. He said that he was on the phone and said How could you leave your family for a woman? Are you crazy? And my dad replied "What can i do? I like her" and he left. And this man asked my mom for his contact because they have lost touch in 6 months. I am not the most charming kid. I'm 14. And i'm a big guy. My dad always says to lose weight. And he i trusted him. I'm not good at sharing my feelings, but i want to talk about this with someone. Our house is not financially safe. My mom works long hours at work. My dad barely provides for us. Recently no one has been able to contact his phone. I trusted my dad. I was accepted into a high school with the ability to be in a medical program because i want to be a doctor. but i gave that up for a public school because we have no money. Mean while my dad lives in vegas with a woman we don't know. WHAT DO I DO.... please.. help me. i want to scream and cry. we are supposed to be moving houses next week but my dad is not even answering his phone

I can just imagine how you are feeling. Sometimes we need to separate ourselves from other people’s problems, however when it is family this can be very difficult. If you can start thinking that this is your parent’s problem and you have your entire life head of yourself to think about you may be able to focus on your life and not theirs. Your parents will be fine and your mom loves you and will take care of you, that's what moms do. You said that you wanted to be a Dr. My uncle is a retired Dr and his dad died when he was very young. They were very poor. I don't know where you live but with my uncle his grades were really good and the government helped to pay for his education and that was over 50 years ago. There are far more opportunities available know then there was then. If I were you I would work very hard and get really good grades and then you will be amazed at what will be available for you when you will need it to continue your education. Live one day at a time every day is a new day with new opportunities available to you.