Ship is sinking

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Tryingtobeme, what's up?

My ship is going down. This boat just keeps getting fuller and fuller and I can't do it anymore.

What's wrong?

Too overwhelmed and no place or no one to help me.

What help do you need from others?

Well I posted this earlier and deleted because I feel no one really cares to know about my life or support me. I am so overwhelmed more so than what I have ever been. My son has developmental issues, worried about his future, I've had three people die on me in the past 3 weeks, had to leave my church, marriage issues, eating issues and my mother/biological family issues.

Just don't have any support or people that really care what happens to me. I wonder what is the point of trying anymore.

Your son needs you. Please continue to post your worries. We are listening.

((((((((((((Trying))))))))))))

That is so much all at once. No wonder you are feeling overwhelmed. Please know that you are supported here. Keep talking. Let us help challenge the negative thoughts.

(((((((Trying)))))))))

Sending you TONS and TONS of hugs!!!!!

The people here are great and they have really helped me recently as I'm going through some dark times too. I've had some great advice given to me and also encouragement. It often helps just to know I'm not the only one out there who feels this way! Keep coming here, and posting and reading the replies. We do care, and understand.

Thank you everyone for reading and responding to my posts. It's been hard to even do the simplest thing. I do appreciate all the kind words. Thank you again.

Raising a child with developmental problems is emotionally taxing. I'm so sorry for your struggles. (((BIG SUPPORTIVE MAMA HUG)))

May I ask why you had to leave your church? I suggest finding and attending a new church w/ a wonderful & supportive community. Also, find a support group in your area for parents raising children with special needs and disabilities. Try Meetup.com or someplace similar, or check with the local schools. Getting together with other parents who know your struggles will be very beneficial.

Jen, thank you. The issue with church was that my son was being bullied, hit pushed, kicked, treated very unfairly. He doesn't understand these kind of things and he does not talk yet. He says a few sounds and a few words to us but not to anyone else. He is Autisic.

Our pastor doesn't see what the problem is or fails to recongize that the parents of these other kids don't really care and don't watch their kids. They just drop them off and their kids run free. He also doesn't understand the needs and issues with children that are not what he considers "normal" for a child. Normal is in the eyes of the beholder not a criteria to judge people little loan children.

I'm trying to find a new church. Been to 2 other churchs and my son had major meltdowns to the point that we had to leave. So at this point, I'm not sure what I am going to do.

Biblical platitudes have their place. However, I think it would be more helpful if you responded as an individual and 'own' what you have to say. I eagerly await your reply to my response.

your a jerk. Stay off the board if you can't say something nice.

That's awful. I would meet with the pastor or priest ahead of time, preferably without your child (if possible) for a little sit down meeting so you can explain your situation and gauge from his/her response what kind of welcome you can expect. I used to go to church, and I never would've received that kind of treatment ever in the parish I was a member of. I miss them terribly. They were like a second family for us.

My point - there are good, friendly, supportive churches out there. Keep looking and don't lose hope. And, as someone of faith, pray for strength and patience.

Thank you Jen. Sorry it's been awhile. Been trying to keep my head above water. Saw a crisis worker yesterday after going to my PCP doc (who is great and even stayed with me through the whole process even though he was done for the day). Thank you for all the information, thank you everyone for supporting words.

I second JenIsAlwaysSick, and some churches have Sunday School groups just for people with these types of issues. I hope you can find one like that!!