[vaarier]

I am divorced recently and depressed , now on medications, but i am wondering whether my previous episodes of depression and being on medications has in any way affected my relationship.
Now i am frightened to death to go into a new relationship, will i have to disclose that i am on medications? is it a sign of weakness? how will the other person take it?.
lot of thoughts going through my mind, i am planning to stay on a small dose of fluoxetine forever. Does anyone have any experience regarding this.

[OurLadysTears]

I would take some time to get your mental health straightened out a bit before entering a new relationship. It's not something I would personally bring up right away, but definitely a conversation that should be had once things get a bit more comfortable. Everyone has their own opinions on the matter and some may advise otherwise.

[madisgram]

i'm most cautious about discussing my dx's with others. there are so many ppl that don't undestand MI. only if i need support from a irl friend do i divulge my dx. i too think it's wise to delay a new relationship til you get things sorted out.
a good note-you've sought help and you will improve!

[St406]

I've suffered long term from depression and looking back I would say many people said things to me that indicated that they suspected or were even concerned about my mood. I don't think you can really hide it for long. Later in life, meds became necessary and I believe many also noticed the effect on me. I have only really taken Zoloft and Lexapro--nothing that would really tranquilize. People noticed. Some thought it was marijuana.

Next point--I married someone with the total lack of capacity to tolerate and understand depression.

So my point is that if depression is a part of your life, and it may continue to be, maybe it's best to put that on the table before you are attached and that person CANT understand. Would u want a date to notice the difference in your pupil's dilation and assume you r recreationally high? Should you mention depression on the first date? Probably not. The single people in my age range 45-55 put their cards on the table---quickly. On the other hand, it may be hard to find someone who is understanding unless they have firsthand knowledge. I guess there r arguments both ways.

I agree with the other posts that maybe its time for you to hold off the search for a new relationship right now. You have alot to deal with and dating can be rough.

If I could turn back the clock, I'd find someone who suffered from depression too and we would somehow make ourselves happy. Wish life was that simple. I hope you a quick recovery.

[vaarier]

Till now I have been very cautious in not revealing my depression to anyone, only my family and doctor know about it, maybe one or two close friends, But i am concerned that i might not be able to hide it life long(if I live that long) and worried what impact it would have on my social life and professional life. Relationship as well, I dont think many people understand what depression really is.

[Mustkeepjob32]

Well in my experience (I may be abnormal this way) but if I'm serious about someone, they will find out about my depression eventually. It is the process of two people learning about each other. You don't have to say you take meds unless they ask. Also, if you are truly interested in someone and they are interested in you, they are not going to lose interest because you take meds for depression. And of course being a professional, you know there's no need for anyone in the business setting to know you take meds or suffer from depression.

[St406]

Overall, I believe you should use discretion in telling about your depression. It's a personal piece of info which many would have no need to know. Co workers might never actually need to know--it's ok if they suspect.

[vaarier]

I think Mustkeepjob32 and St406 are right, i am on meds and its my problem. I will keep it discreet and maybe reveal to my partner(if at all i find one in future)

[Raindropvampire]

I am BP and also suffer from PTSD. I also have really bad nightmares occasionally. I mean wake up the neighborhood screaming and crying type nightmares. At the end of the very first date with my now husband I told him everything. We had a great date he asked me out for the next evening also so I told him everything and then said "You still want that second date?". Guess what he did and I came to find out he has his own mental issues. I guess I believe in being upfront about it. I had the date, found out he really liked me and he wanted another date. I decided it was easier to be on the level and let him know what he would be dealing with. That way it was up to him if he wanted to still see me. I can't change the fact that I have what I have. It will not ever go away. I refuse to be ashamed of what I am. I refuse to hide. but to each their own.

[vaarier]

I am just about recovering form this episode of depression, but want to stay on meds long term. I am keen to find an understanding life partner who can help me heal my disease rather than worsen it.