[ginger1776]

I feel absolutely pathetic. My aunt is dying, my sister is nasty to me, and my friend is in the hospital because she tried to commit suicide so I just shut down? I feel like I can't do anything. Like I'm worthless. Maybe I'm just lazy. I hate feeling lazy but everything, even eating seems too hard. I'm a failure

[Burning Aroma]

Ginger1776,

I'm so sorry you're having a rough time. First of all please know that we are all precious and we are all worth something or else we would not be on this earth. Sometimes I felt like I'm worthless. But I'm not. And neither are you, or anybody else. Not even the people who call other people 'worthless'. Everyone serves a purpose here. You aren't a failure. You're here for a reason.

Have you been spending time with your aunt? I think right now you should focus the most on spending time with her. I don't know what your relationship is like with her, but I would try to be with her as much as I could to make her feel a little better. Trust me... you don't even have to do anything. Your mere presence would be comforting to her.

Also, I'm very sorry about your friend who's in the hospital.

From what you've mentioned your sister sounds like she's acting very meanly towards you, especially with all those things you're going through. Right now I reckon the last thing you need is someone acting nasty towards you. I'd try to just avoid causing trouble with her for this period of time, until you feel better, which you will. I'm not saying cut your connections with her completely obviously. Just for this time, try not to supply any trouble.

You aren't being lazy. You're worn out. Give yourself time. What you're going through is more than understandable. You've been under so much pressure that it has overwhelmed you. Many people experience that. I understand.

I hope my advice helped, even if just a little. Please know that you are in my thoughts.

Hope things get better soon,
Burning Aroma

[Rohag]

I agree with Burning Aroma.

• Aunt dying
• Sister nasty
• Friend tried to commit suicide

Rather than lazy, it seems life is battering you and the feelings of helplessness, worthlessness and laziness are bruises. Under those circumstances I would most probably shut down.

Please let the feelings run themselves out and take care of yourself the best you can. When safe and ready, you can devote some energy to your aunt and friend.

[kaliope]

You discuss three situations that are entirely out of your control. when you say that you feel like you cant do anything, that is the one accurate statement you make in your post. You cant stop your aunt from dying, but as Burning says, you can be there to support her. You cant stop your sister from being nasty, but you dont have to participate. As for your friend, she made her choice, you can be there for her as well. Or as you chose, you can withdraw to protect yourself from the overwhelming feelings you are having as well. Thats a valid response as well. But you are not pathetic or lazy. You are a human being who has feelings that are being overwhelmed by things that are beyond your control and when you are ready to deal with them, you will.