[ArchAngel_0001]

I have for 4.5 months been without my wife and child. The only hope I have to continue on is that we will be reunited. When I believe in this as a miracle that I pray for, I become extremely depressed. When I don't I feel as though I have given up on something that my heart truly knows I should continue believing in.

I am lost, either way, is a path to ultimate and severe pain.

Help.

[ArchAngel_0001]

I really need some support this evenining and am having a terrible time.

Please allow me chat room access so I can start speaking with some others.

[ArchAngel_0001]

I often see that I now have tremors since a major trauma has happened to me in my life. Is this related to depression?

I have no other diagnosed disorders.

[ArchAngel_0001]

I am extremely depressed due to a significant loss of my wife and child.
I also suffer from two forms of trauma based PTSD.
I have constant nightmares that severly disrupt my sleep patterns.

Can anyone offer advice that is aside from prescribed drugs via a Healthcare Professional?

[ArchAngel_0001]

I am mostly alone all of the time with severe depression,
and I have no other option other than this. Are there any
suggestions that anyone might have that can help me out
with this predicament?

[Rohag]

Hello & Welcome, ArchAngel_0001! Were you able to get into the chat room? If you feel unsafe in yourself, please don't hesitate to contact emergency services in your area.

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Online Self-Help Book for Mental Health & Illness (MentalHelp.net)
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[dusty9838]

Originally Posted by ArchAngel_0001

I have for 4.5 months been without my wife and child. The only hope I have to continue on is that we will be reunited. When I believe in this as a miracle that I pray for, I become extremely depressed. When I don't I feel as though I have given up on something that my heart truly knows I should continue believing in.

I am lost, either way, is a path to ultimate and severe pain.

Help.

I'm not sure if you mean you lost your wife and child in an accident or you just have not seen them in that long... either way you seem to be in a very great amount of trauma and hurt.

I recommend on trying to find a therapist and maybe consider letting your doctor prescribe you antidepressants if it has been over 4 months and you're still feeling this way.

There is definately nothing wrong with hoping for a miracle and it is perfectly normal and natural to feel that way... you should be able to get into chatrooms after you have posted 5 messages on the forums.

If it makes you feel any better you can write out in detail here on the forums what you are going through but I still recommend consider seeing a psychiatrist or therapist to help you work through your pain.. I wish you the best

[lynn P.]

(((ArchAngel 0001))) - I'm sorry you're feeling very down and waited a bit for a reply. Are you separated from your wife and child - do you have visitation rights and have you spoke to a lawyer?? If not please get legal representation if this is a separation, to ensure you get your rights as a father. I understand this must be so hard for you.

Regarding your question - it's fine to hope/pray for a miracle...I've done this myself and felt frustrated that not much changed. The thing to remember is, sometimes God has other plans and doesn't give you exactly what you're asking for. Another fact is, sometimes bad breaks just happen and the best thing to do is roll with the punches. Hoping then feeling disappointed can make you feel worse. This means you need to take care of yourself for now and do your best to make sure you're doing all you legally can to see your child and perhaps to offer a reconciliation.

If you can't reconcile, then yes you'll grieve but you don't want it to ruin your life over this. You are entitled to your fatherly rights to see your child and should fight for that. So in a nutshell - yes its okay to hope for a miracle but its best to be realistic and have a plan of action...don't depend on just hoping. I'm sending you strong vibes and please hang in there. I've also suffered a devastating blow and I'm here to say...you will and can survive.