i feel like im more of a problem than im worth! i hate how whenever i have issues i cant just tell someone who is supposed to be there for support, to care, to advise, to what ever the fuc* their job description is supposed to be. jeasus effing christmas!!!
i dont need to be told how to live, i got that figured out. it's the dealing with every one and everything else that i cant deal with! it makes me so angry!
but yeah, that's my rant. sory i had to let it out. im fine now.
i just wonder if other people have the same concerns?

[roads]

What d yu think?

[TerryL]

Want to elaborate?

[fight-flight]

'''i hate how whenever i have issues i cant just tell someone who is supposed to be there for support, to care, to advise'''

I understand. Im from a family are 'fixers'. They find it very hard to just to soak up a rant and act as sounding boards. Its therefore hard to open up to those close to you because sometimes all you need to say is ..'Life is *****!' ..without them feeling a responsibility to try and fix you/the problem. Its like, you dont have a voice without opening up a can of worms and causing more of a problem. The other thing is ..you start to bottle it up because you feel misunderstood and dont want to make things worse.

You are not more of a problem than you are worth..its just a rant , a release, you need to be heard

Rant on Vicki ..I hear ya !

Originally Posted by fight-flight

'''i hate how whenever i have issues i cant just tell someone who is supposed to be there for support, to care, to advise'''

I understand. Im from a family are 'fixers'. They find it very hard to just to soak up a rant and act as sounding boards. Its therefore hard to open up to those close to you because sometimes all you need to say is ..'Life is *****!' ..without them feeling a responsibility to try and fix you/the problem. Its like, you dont have a voice without opening up a can of worms and causing more of a problem. The other thing is ..you start to bottle it up because you feel misunderstood and dont want to make things worse.

You are not more of a problem than you are worth..its just a rant , a release, you need to be heard

Rant on Vicki ..I hear ya !

exactly,
pluss my councelor is being rude. trying to tell me how to live. insted of actualy listing to what i tell her. so i was realy frustrated yesterday.


-thanks

[fight-flight]

Glad I could be of help ..made me feel good

If you felt they were being rude and not listening ..maybe you could bring it up with your counsellor next session? Give you both a chance to clear the air ..and more importantly , to move forward. Its difficult to move if you dont feel acknowledged, theres anymosity, and you are not building trust.

They may have a completely different spin on the session..may think it was a great success! But it bothered you ..so worth exploring further I think ..

All the best

i did do that, and im not nearly as mad now. i think she just is having a crappy month or something. im not the only one she's aggrivated latly.

[fight-flight]

Yeah Vicki ..sounds like shes not having a good time of it herself ! But really good to hear you had brought your own feelings to the fore. Gives her a chance to reflect and hopefully work on that to your advantage.

I am from a family of non listeners..they just talk and talk AT each other at that ! If you dont agree with them ..you are shouted down ..made to feel stoopid. So, it strikes a chord when people say they are not feeling listened to or understood.

I learned to not have a voice which is sad at the best of times and very destructive when you cant vent. Grrrr

Have a good day ..

yes indeed we must subsist....

despite the pain..

it's all relative

I hate myself and me and

somehow I cope