[throwaway1822]

I really dislike myself and my personality. I find it difficult to have meaningful conversations and connecting with people. Hell even at parties no one really talks to me for more than 5 mins (probably because they don’t like talking with me or I’m a bad conversationalist). I’m 22 going on 23 and STILL a virgin. All my friends lost their virginity in high school and have had multiple partners since. What’s wrong with me? Why am I the only one in my friend group to not get girls. There has to be something wrong with me. The combination of being bad at conversing and having ZERO girls at the EMBARRASSING age of 22 has made me absolutely hate myself while being extremely depressed, extremely anxious, and

Possible trigger:

at times suicidal.

I’m so sick of the god damn cliches of “your time will come” “there’s nothing wrong with you” etc etc. Every single time someone says that to me I shake my head and just sadly look at the ground and just don’t believe them. And how can i? I can’t get girls and I suck at talking to people and I absolutely hate myself. So I ask again what’s wrong with me? I find my self to be a decent looking guy, I dress nice and keep myself clean. So why can my friends pull women but I can’t? Why can my friends seemingly talk to anyone and keep the conversation going but I can’t? I’d be lying if I said these thoughts don’t plague my mind every waking moment. Can’t believe I’m gonna be a 23 years old and still never pulled a girl, how pathetic.

HOW DO I STOP HATING MYSELF AND BEING SO MISERABLE?? Can I learn to love myself again?

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[Skeezyks]

Hello throwaway: I don't know as I really have much in the way of answers to offer you. But I noticed this is your first post here on MSF. So... welcome to the forums. I hope you find being here to be of benefit.

You asked how you stop hating yourself and being so miserable. I suppose the obvious answer is to find, and work with, a mental health professional in an effort to figure out what is causing you to be so down on yourself. Then, perhaps, you can begin to figure out why it is you've had so much difficulty attracting members of the opposite sex. Possibly there is something in how you present yourself, or things you say (or how you say them) that turns young women off? I don't know, of course. These are just random thoughts on my part.

I think, somehow, you need to find someone, in real life, who can act as a sort of mirror and help you to understand what's going on. You mentioned you suck at talking with people and you hate yourself. That, in-and-of itself, may be enough to cause you to not come across as attractive to women. Or perhaps there's something else going on here. Is it possible you're a person with high-level autism? Did you experience childhood emotional neglect growing up? Here again, if there's something such as this going on with you it's going to take working with a mental health professional to figure that out definitively... again... just random thoughts that come to mind reading your post.

Anyway... reading, here on MSF, as well as continuing to post may be a good first step. My best wishes to you.

[Fuzzybear]

Welcome to msf

(good post by Skeezyks, I don't have much to add to that )