[emilyrenee]

Hey, I need some help tonight. I have been struggling with depression for many years now, and tonight I feel like I've lost control. Part of my problem is that I can't handle my emotions in a proper manner, and tonight I found out that my fiancee has been cheating on me. I have been having a really tough time lately and this came as a huge blow. I know its so stupid to freak out about a man, but I really do love him and the pain in unbearable. For the first time in awhile, I seriously considered ending my life and cut myself just to deal with the pain. Looking back on it I know it sounds crazy and I feel so pathetic for allowing a man to have so much influence on me. He really was the only thing that I had and I just don't want to be alone tonight, I need some encouraging words. Thank you

[Leed]

Bless your heart. You sound like a very intelligent person -- you realize that we really shouldn't make ONE person the whole basis of our lives. It's important to have friends, family too.

I'm glad you found out about your cheating fiance' BEFORE you got married! Believe me, if he did it once, he'll do it again. It always happens. If he doesn't respect your committment NOW, he's surely not going to abide by a few words in a marriage vow.

I KNOW you're in alot of pain -- you trusted him and he was your whole world. But try to be grateful that you found out now -- you DESERVE someone who won't betray you like this. There IS someone out there like that, just for you!!! Don't let this guy get away with it, and just because he says he "won't do it again" doesn't mean that he won't. Look for a guy who respects you.

God bless & I PROMISE that the pain will start to ease soon. Just don't give him the chance to hurt you again. Take care. Hugs, Lee

[depressedalaskan]

((((emilyrenee)))) I see that this is your first post. I to suffer from a long history of depression. I can say I know where you are. Please take care of yourself first. You are the important one here. Please keep posting if you can or call a hotline if you really get down so far it is hard to get up. Or you can also go to the nearest hospital near you. Please again take care of yourself.

[maynardssillygirl]

As an experienced patient of clinical depression and a recent heartbreak of my own I would suggest that you do not spend any time self isolationg. Here is a list of what you need to do.

1. Have no contact with this guy
2. When you are either on the phone with a supportive person or have the company of a friend put every single thing that reminds you of him in a closet somewhere.
3. Start a journal about your feelings from day to day
4. Keep yourself busy making plans with friends or a new guy...just go out and have some fun and enjoy your new freedom
5. Make plans for a month from now, plan a exciting trip or an outing
6. Try to forgive him if you can and wish the best for him...be the stronger better person and he will regret his mistake
7. Try to join a support group, this is something new I have tried and it really helps to vent to a group of people rather than just a T.

And always know that I am here for you as well as the rest of the group here at psych central.

Much love to you and Happy Holidays. Trust me, you will become a stronger person from this...take a moment and feel that strength.

[CantExplain]

Anyone would be upset if their BF cheated on them. But that's his failure, not yours. You have nothing to be ashamed or guilty about.