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Old Jan 20, 2012, 12:25 AM
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What do I have against being content and taking care of myself?

I am currently overweight and feel disgusting and ugly but I don't do anything about it and actually make it worse by eating like a garbage disposal and refusing to exercise. It's like I refuse to be happy.

I've never weighed so much my whole life even while pregnant twice.

so frustrated.
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Old Jan 20, 2012, 12:57 AM
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What do I have against being content and taking care of myself?

I am currently overweight and feel disgusting and ugly but I don't do anything about it and actually make it worse by eating like a garbage disposal and refusing to exercise. It's like I refuse to be happy.

I've never weighed so much my whole life even while pregnant twice.

so frustrated.
I totally get where you are coming from... =/
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Old Jan 20, 2012, 10:57 AM
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I do that too. I view it as self injury. I eat because I'm in pain, and feel better while doing it. Put the pain afterwards is always worse.
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Old Jan 20, 2012, 03:26 PM
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You have hit upon the reason most weight reduction programs do not work;there are frequently psychological reasons why people feel the need to over-eat,self-destructive urges caused by depression being the most common.The most successful approach is to deal with the depression first or if you insist,at the same time that a weight reduction program is entered into.
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Old Jan 21, 2012, 12:29 AM
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I'm not even hungry most of the time but I still overeat just to eat.
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Old Jan 21, 2012, 09:01 AM
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there are frequently psychological reasons why people feel the need to over-eat,self-destructive urges caused by depression being the most common.
agreed!

@feary-what you are describing sounds so much like me!! especially when dealing with a lot of anxiety or depression I have a big problem with sugar cravings and just seem to be compelled to cook and bake but lately I have not been able to much due to an injury to my hand so I have just been eating really light, and the last couple of days I have woken up feeling so good, better than I have in ages. I really think that sugar cravings and depression are a vicious cycle and work together to keep us down. if you feel compelled to overeat, can you make it something healthy like soup with tons of vegetables or oatmeal with fruit? even if that only works sometimes it's worth a try.
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Old Jan 21, 2012, 09:05 AM
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Wow! Just, Wow!

So much of me in what you just wrote.

I find the more I obsess over it, the more it gets out of control, but I'll be danged if I can just STOP IT!

Early on in my process I said I just wanted to make peace with food. If only it were that easy!

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Old Jan 21, 2012, 09:18 AM
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you nailed it. I could go to the gym, I could eat healthier but I don't. I can usually be "good" during the day with my eating, but then when I get home from work--watch out! funny, I'm on day 19 of abstaining from alcohol and it's a breeze. but food? (or smoking for that matter) I just can't get a grasp.

I realize now need to work harder on my depression issues. thanks, everyone, and thanks feary for posting this!
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Old Jan 21, 2012, 10:16 AM
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we can do it! one step at a time and thank you feary for bringing up this issue!
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