How I feel about myself depends on how others treat me

Hi

I don't know where to post this, so sorry if it's in the wrong place.

I'm not feeling good about myself lately, not at all. They say: be your own best friend. Well, I think I'm my worst enemy.
Anyways, the way I feel about myself depends on how others treat me.

Like last night I went out with some friends from school, and I know one of them isn't too fond of me, which bugs me cuz I can't stand the thought that somebody doesn't like me. So she's closer with the others, which is normal. But it makes me feel bad.

Now, my best friend has two best friends: me and another girl. I got the feeling that she and that other girl hung out a lot more than me and her. Could be because I'm having exams and she didn't wanna disturb me or anything, but we were meeting up this week and she said she couldn't make it, cuz she's sick and asked me to come over later this week.

I'm just putting thoughts in my head that people like everybody else but me. That I'm boring and no fun. One of my biggest fears is ending up alone, without friends or anything. I don't have many friends, no need to, I know a few good ones are better than a lot of "empty" friends.

But still, I HATE feeling like this about myself and I wanna change this cuz this is really getting me down.
I hope somebody has any ideas?

Hello, ShootingStars. Something for you to ponder: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/...ers-define-you

You are really empowering others. What about empowering yourself? I think you need a boost of self confidence. Ask yourself truly, are they better than I am, are they smarter than I am, are they prettier than I am, is their opinion better than mine? Most of those likely are a big "NO". You sound very young and teen years are difficult for most. Some of your friends likely feels just like you do....not sure of themselves yet.

Hugs, bj

Hi fellow member, I'm sorry but I don't know how you coulad tackle these feelings,
However what you have described is ME,I'm the ecxact same way.
One minute I'm ok then someone will make a random comment or even look at me strange and that's it BOOM my mood changes and down I go.
I think this happens to many of us on here and whilst we know not everybody likes each other it hurts not knowing why or what we've done do be disliked.
So sorry I can't help but I just wanted you to know your not alone
Take care
Jk

You are def'ly not alone in this one......There are days where I feel confident and happy then one word/glance even by someone I don't know and down I go. I too cant offer any real advice I know what works for me tho. In that situation, I just try to think of a time when I had a really good time, alone a time when I truly enjoyed my own company and realize that maybe it is them not me. If they do not like me maybe it is something about them, maybe they see something in me that they wish for, just maybe they are hiding some of the things that I hide behind my mask, a mask they see as friendly/confident whatever.

Hugz
Nams