[Mordecaii]

I hate living with my boyfriends parents,
i hate having them tell me what to do like i'm not old enough to do what i want.
i've never been told what to do , i've never had rules i've had to follow. and it annoys me.i do everything they say , perfectly i try so hard to make them happy , its still not enough, they threaten to kick me out if i do one thing wrong.. like"i dont clean the house enough" and frankly all i do all day is clean the freaking house. i dont work, i dont go to school i stay home all day all alone and clean . im getting lonely i have no friends and no one to talk to and i just sit here. i dunno what else to say , im just too depressed and too angry . i dont want to be here.

Hi Mordecaii,

I'm afraid I'm not aware of your background, and I'm wondering why you're not attending school or have a job? Is it that you aren't mentally able to handle it, or that you are simply not wanting to? If it's the latter, I would suggest trying one of them out. It would give you something to focus on, and school is especially great because you get to study something you're interested in and earn a degree that will help you get a job you genuinely like.

If you're not able to handle either of those options, perhaps engaging in a hobby you enjoy, or doing volunteer work, can help you get out of the house once in a while? Even if it's something small, like going for a walk.

Also, if you think it would help...maybe having a serious discussion with your boyfriend's parents about how their pressure is making you feel would be beneficial.

And I guess my last question (sorry for all the questions!) would be, is it possible for you and your boyfriend to move out of his parent's house?

[Mordecaii]

Originally Posted by melissa.recovering

Hi Mordecaii,

I'm afraid I'm not aware of your background, and I'm wondering why you're not attending school or have a job? Is it that you aren't mentally able to handle it, or that you are simply not wanting to? If it's the latter, I would suggest trying one of them out. It would give you something to focus on, and school is especially great because you get to study something you're interested in and earn a degree that will help you get a job you genuinely like.

If you're not able to handle either of those options, perhaps engaging in a hobby you enjoy, or doing volunteer work, can help you get out of the house once in a while? Even if it's something small, like going for a walk.

Also, if you think it would help...maybe having a serious discussion with your boyfriend's parents about how their pressure is making you feel would be beneficial.

And I guess my last question (sorry for all the questions!) would be, is it possible for you and your boyfriend to move out of his parent's house?

We're working on moving, never planned to stay,
well i dont go to school because my parents abandoned me , and i had no where to go, so im staying with his parrents until, we can move out. i'm a minor and my mother wont sign over custody so i could go to school. i've been looking for a job.. not very much luck. im just trying to just do as they say.. so they'll let me stay until i can move . i've moved from washington to texas, so im a little out of my element . i dont know where anything is, i cant drive yet. because you need a legal guardian to sign you up for the drivers test . theres nothing i can do . im stuck.

Originally Posted by Mordecaii

We're working on moving, never planned to stay,
well i dont go to school because my parents abandoned me , and i had no where to go, so im staying with his parrents until, we can move out. i'm a minor and my mother wont sign over custody so i could go to school. i've been looking for a job.. not very much luck. im just trying to just do as they say.. so they'll let me stay until i can move . i've moved from washington to texas, so im a little out of my element . i dont know where anything is, i cant drive yet. because you need a legal guardian to sign you up for the drivers test . theres nothing i can do . im stuck.

Oh, I see. I didn't realize you were a minor, so I apologize! Seems really odd that you need a parent's permission to go to school...in fact, I thought that it's the law for a child to go to school UNLESS the parent signs them out of school permanently. Guess I was mistaken. If your parents abandoned you, there should be some way that you can go to school if you want to. Talking to the school about your situation, they could probably figure something out. Even if it means going to the courts and getting yourself emancipated from your parent's care.

I hope you are able to find a job soon, if that's the route you decide to take (although I personally think school should be the #1 priority), and that you and your boyfriend will be able to move out soon!

[Mordecaii]

Originally Posted by melissa.recovering

Oh, I see. I didn't realize you were a minor, so I apologize! Seems really odd that you need a parent's permission to go to school...in fact, I thought that it's the law for a child to go to school UNLESS the parent signs them out of school permanently. Guess I was mistaken. If your parents abandoned you, there should be some way that you can go to school if you want to. Talking to the school about your situation, they could probably figure something out. Even if it means going to the courts and getting yourself emancipated from your parent's care.

I hope you are able to find a job soon, if that's the route you decide to take (although I personally think school should be the #1 priority), and that you and your boyfriend will be able to move out soon!

well my mom is something else... so.. i dunno about her. emancipation costs money .. the cops got involed to make sure i wasnt a runaway . which im not. they said they'd help me get into school. they never did,, now its kinda too late .i wouldve been graduating next year and im not going to start out in the 10th grade. im going to get my GED but until i turn 18 i need a legal guardian to take that too, im not even sure if i cant get a job. i have a copy of my birth certificate and my social security number , but not the card. people are telling me its not enough .do you have any advice? im so depressed being alone all the time.. and not doing anything . it makes me sick and i feel pathetic , i have no friends. it disgusts me to think i'm that pathetic and im sad because of that . it makes me sick to my stomach i feel like a loser.

Originally Posted by Mordecaii

well my mom is something else... so.. i dunno about her. emancipation costs money .. the cops got involed to make sure i wasnt a runaway . which im not. they said they'd help me get into school. they never did,, now its kinda too late .i wouldve been graduating next year and im not going to start out in the 10th grade. im going to get my GED but until i turn 18 i need a legal guardian to take that too, im not even sure if i cant get a job. i have a copy of my birth certificate and my social security number , but not the card. people are telling me its not enough .do you have any advice? im so depressed being alone all the time.. and not doing anything . it makes me sick and i feel pathetic , i have no friends. it disgusts me to think i'm that pathetic and im sad because of that . it makes me sick to my stomach i feel like a loser.

Well Mordecaii, I can safely say that you're not a loser, or pathetic. You've just had a rough time in life, with events that most people never experience. It's unfortunate that you've had to go through this.

May I ask how old you are? If you're close to 18, getting your GED once you turn that age sounds like a really good idea. If you're not close to that age...I'd suggest getting in contact with the cops who said they'd help you, but never did. Also, contacting the school and asking for their help is a great option too. But as I said, if you're close to 18, then the GED sounds like the best option.

I had always assumed that you didn't need the actual card for your SIN...when filling out applications and such, they just ask for the number, not the card itself. But that is coming from a 19 year old girl on disability who has never had a proper job of her own! I'm sure that you would be able to get the card, if you know the number. It may cost money though.

I'm afraid I don't have much advice to give...as I am currently living a simple life myself (live alone with my puppy, finishing my high school, on disability)...but I would definitely suggest engaging in activities you enjoy. Listening to music, walks, journaling, reading, writing, even the seemingly simplest of things can provide happiness. Spending time with your boyfriend as well. If he has friends, maybe you would be able to hang out with them and they could become your friends as well.

Please be kind to yourself, you are not a loser. And remember, although it's not the same as real life, there are people here who do care about you. Please feel free to post anytime, we are here to listen.

[IceCreamKid]

If you are a minor, how is it you were transported halfway across the country and where are your mother and father right now? The way you describe your situation you are being used as unpaid labor and being denied the right to an education. Surely this is illegal. I say call your local county children's services and ask for help ASAP.

[Mordecaii]

Originally Posted by IceCreamKid

If you are a minor, how is it you were transported halfway across the country and where are your mother and father right now? The way you describe your situation you are being used as unpaid labor and being denied the right to an education. Surely this is illegal. I say call your local county children's services and ask for help ASAP.

you dont need to be 18 to get on a plane. or take a city bus to the airport,
i dunno where they are.

being used as unpaid labor? cleaning their house? their letting me live here. they pay for my food. they already have 3 kids, and they took me in . the least i could do is clean up .. and i do . i just feel like sometimes it goes unappreciated,