[doggiedo]

Why do I have such a difficult time making decisions? Does anyone else relate?
It literally can range from: should I go to the store? Which store should I go to? Where will have the better sales? What type of dog food to buy? When to send out my tax return? Call or email a friend? Am I dating the right guy? Do I want to be single or dating? Would getting a tattoo be too drastic when I can’t even find the right time to go to the grocery store? Should I adopt another dog?

I wish I could just make a decision and stick with it. I am so wishy washy. I absolutely hate it about myself. I couldn’t care about half of the stuff, so why can’t I make a decision?

[ba.ll.oo.n]

Don't worry, you are not alone in this. Maybe the best option right now would be only going to the shop closest to you and leaving all the other questions 'till later when you're in a better shape to decide?

[doggiedo]

later? but WHEN later?

If I go to the store, I'll be missing time to spend with my dog or outside in this gorgeous weather. If I don't go tonight, then when will I go this week?

[agma]

I can completely relate. I always ask other people what I should do. It drives my husband crazy. I wish I knew how to change it....

[Rohag]

Two years ago I decided I needed a new computer. I'm currently somewhere in the process of deciding what I want.

Tonight I may take two minutes to decide what I want for supper, or fifteen, or I'll go into a full-fledged "food funk" where I can't decide and get frustrated over my indecision and just let nature happen.

[doggiedo]

Aw, hugs to you both. I know, right???

[Steve27]

By-product of depression I've found. Spent half an hour driving around deciding where to eat. I've found that I have to force myself to make a decision even if I don;t like it. Think of it as practice.

[Marla500]

me too!! I get totally overwhelmed with everything.

[recentlydeceased]

i don't buy chocolate bars because i can't decide which one to buy when i can only buy one.

[Fresia]

At the eye doc the other day as he is flipping those lens to check for a new prescription, and they ask, is the first or second lens better?! I couldn't tell which was better on most of them. He then asked me, "Do you have trouble picking your cereal in the morning?", trying to be funny. "Actually, I do." This surprised him.

I really could relate to what everyone has said. I not only have trouble deciding but even once decided, sometimes I will even change my mind, thinking that something else might have been a better choice. T has said that any choice would be better than none, and that even in not deciding is still a choice. At least by picking something, it might come closer to what we want and in not deciding we miss out or a decision gets made for us that could be not to our liking.

T also asked me about how much time do I spend literally agonizing over these decisions. Would I rather use that time and energy for some other purpose. She said, sometimes making a decision for some and for somethings is like pulling a bandaid off, and can be worth it, the quicker the better. She had me try practicing this and just go for it, try going with first/gut reaction to something, starting with little things, such as the cereal or in when going to the store, etc. Trusting in oneself to make these decisions. Bigger decisions such as large purchases of course or major life events of course still need time to be decided and weighed carefully.

I now visualize the bandaid and will just do it, so I can move forward. I do tend to hesitate and waiver on A LOT still, but if I put my mind to it, the decisions are coming quicker now and feel better about making them. The choice is ours and what we make of it. Not sure if this helps but it is what helps me sometimes.

[doggiedo]

It is a big deal. Fesia - your T sounds like she has a lot of insight. Has it helped? Starting with the smaller decisions and moving up to the bigger ones?

I actually was having a difficult time with the little things and I adopted a dog last week, which is a big decision. It is something I've wanted to do for months now, but have never felt confident enough to follow through with my decision. Now I keep going back and forth. Should I keep him, etc. It's not fair to the poor dog OR myself.

I guess being aware of the problem is half the battle...

[selfawareness35]

Oh, yes...definately a by-product of depression. I am a lab tech & I often will look at a sample 5 times because I can't decide what to call it. Very frustrating. I am the same way when deciding where to shop & when, as well as what to eat. Sometimes it is just best to stick with a routine & make yourself stick to it.