[essexgirl]

Hello everyone. I am a young girl from London and feel down about my appearance. I have very low self confidence and feel depressed that i wont find a boyfriend.

I do feel like this as i have a red birthmark on my right cheek so get down a lot. I am a late teens girl. can you tell me what you think here in this photo like what i look like and how old i look. xxx

http://s1182.photobucket.com/albums/...Tc0Ni5qcGc.jpg

[Dan12345]

Hey look it wouldn't matter if you have half a face the guy you end up with will love you for who you are I couldn't even tell you had a birthmark.

[Puffyprue]

From the picture i cant see your birth mark, and i dont think it would be a problem, if theres a man make it a problem you know he is not worth it , i have many scars on my body and i always anxious about my body so i could related to you.
build your confident and let your self open and smile ..you'll never know who's gonna fall in love with your smile

*hugs*

((((Essexgirl)))) please explain to those of us that are familiar with this pattern ... really, what are you doing and why are you continuing with this?

[Trippin2.0]

I'm with Rose, I don't understand what you wish to achieve by repeating this post as often as you do, as it is evident that no amount of reassurance has benefited you in these past months

[penguinsing]

The red is very non obvious. If you didn't mention it, I wouldn't notice at all. You look as ordinary as anyone on the street.

As long as a person is clean and tidy, it's okay.

I think it's hard to change one own mind, even when we want to. Or else, there will be no such thing as mental health problem and no need of medication. At the same time, trying to work on it is a good thing.


If you compare yourself as photo in magazine, don't. Coz they have make up on and they are photoshop. Even not in photo, make up and no make up can make a big difference too (depends on individual's skill, that's why i rather revealing my true self, LOL )

You are still young. It's not science that teen should have a bf/gf or else there's sth wrong with them, such as appearance. While it's normal that one would want a bf/gf , however romance love is the the only thing that worth our time.

As you enter the not-only-school world, you will have a wider view of life and perhaps you will have a different insight. If you are still in school, you can try volunteer outside school. Also, you can consider seeing a counselor, to get some inspiration, some new idea and insight.

[ThePainNeverDies]

I agree, I can't see your birthmark in the image that you have posted, but one thing I will say is:

Birthmark or no birthmark, you are beautiful as you are. You don't have to be physically attractive, or beautiful, for someone to call you beautiful. You can be beautiful on the inside or the outside, or both, and it's only the people that matter who will tell you the truth.

I don't have much to say right now, as my head isn't in the right place, but I think that you still have a lot of learning to do, about yourself and you have a lot of growing to do, both physically and emotionally, and soon enough you will see the truth about yourself, and that is that you are beautiful.

I know it's not much comfort right now, but from your picture, I see nothing to fault with how you look. You have a pretty face, you have lovely eyes, and the fact that you're worrying about how you look shows that you care about how others perceive/see you. That shows that you have beauty within you.

Feel free to PM me any time, I will come up with a much better reply, I promise.

Being yourself is the best thing you can do, don't ever change just because somebody tells you to. Be who YOU want to be, not who they want you to be. You will one day come to love who you are purely for the fact that you chose to be yourself.

Keep smiling and posting, you're wanted and cared for here.

[Fuzzybear]

(((((((((((((((( essexgirl ))))))))))))))))

[sue mac]

I'm with ya girl I hate ugly blemishs I have freckles all over my body. In sure ur deals not that bad at least u cannot cover it up with makeup just think of me when ur done with a billion freckles and no way to cover them

Hey essex,

As a male humanoid I can tell you that you look fine and I can't see your birthmark either.

Peace out,

Toilet.

[PsychiatricEnigma]

I swear I've seen you on another forum asking this... but regardless...

If I'm honest, you simply look very average.. like as in ordinary.. the sorta girl you see walking past you in the shop you and don't take any notice kinda thing. You're not ugly, but I think physically you're plain? I know it's not complimentary to say that but like perhaps you could try wearing make-up tastefully and get a new hairstyle. No need to clown yourself up, but yeah. I realise this is going to sound pretty unpolitically correct, but yes looks do matter in a relationship, it's what establishes attraction, although how important they actually are varies from person to person, sometimes it's minimal sometimes it's roughly half the package. Personality is what catches and keeps the heart, but regardless, your looks aren't a deal breaker and you can definitely improve upon them if you want.

I'd be very careful though, you sound emotionally vulnerable and there are idiots out there who would take advantage of this, and on the flipside "looking for a boyfriend" won't help you find someone suitable, most people can smell desperation and people deliberately searching for relationships about 100 miles off. So you need to work on your self-esteem, physically improving your appearance will help you feel better about yourself and tackling any mental/emotional health issues you have and just build up friends through networking in life, or you could try internet dating (like Plenty of Fish or OKCupid) when you're ready, although you have to be careful of the creeps and fakers out there, but internet relationships do work well for some people, since everything can be done at your own pace and whatnot. Whatever you do, please don't listen to the usual "get down the bar and pick up a man" or "just go clubbing" style advice you hear from some people out there.. men and women are generally different in this regards, a man will often get a confidence boost from a one night stand or whatever, but women will feel crappy after them since the emotional void is still there.