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Ive been crying for weeks. Feel like at any moment I will cry

[adel34]

Welcome to PC!
I'm sorry you've been crying a lot. Do you have a therapist to talk abbout things with? I know for me often things build up and that's when I get really overwhelmed and emotional.
Know we're here for you on here.

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Thank you. I have a therapist I've been seeing for years every other week. My problem is deep down I believe I am a loser. I take on too much and overcompensate ( try to be perfect) and never complain. Always pretend I'm happy. This has lead to some professional success. I'm the go to person at work and it has wore me down. I'm expected to do so much.

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Originally Posted by adel34

Welcome to PC!
I'm sorry you've been crying a lot. Do you have a therapist to talk abbout things with? I know for me often things build up and that's when I get really overwhelmed and emotional.
Know we're here for you on here.

Thank you. My problem is I consider myself a loser. I over compensate and try to be perfect. This had led to success at work as well as me being considered a go to person. I smile and take on all the work. My identity is determined by pleasing people. When something goes wrong or someone is not happy I fall apart.

[whimsygirl]

Originally Posted by hidesad

Ive been crying for weeks. Feel like at any moment I will cry

Hello and welcome to the forums. Are there things going on with you besides the crying? Sadness? Bad feelings? Lack of motivation? If the crying continues and ~or you experience other symptoms then it would be advisable to discuss it with your doctor, Best wishes..... ps.....Although of course one can go straight to a psychologist ~therapist, if there is a possibility of depression, a medical doctor ~physician will need to be involved. Depression is a physical illness.

[jelly-bean]

I'm sorry that you have been crying so much. You should consider talking to your doctor about it he/she needs to know this problem has come up with you. There are things he/she can do to help you. Do you have any idea at all what started the crying? There are thing that will trigger a crying bout and if You can identify the trigger you can try to avoid it from now on. Good luck!

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Thanks everyone. It has been a really rough stretch for me. Simply put I have really low self esteem and my self worth comes from pleasing others especially at work.

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[Miswimmy1]

Im sorry is there someone u can talk to?

[dailyhealing]

I'm so glad you are here and are posting! Have you talked to your therapist about your crying? I have depression and when I am in a depressed state I cry a lot for no reason whatsoever... I'm not saying it's what you have, but it could be. I know for me that I needed medication to help me with my depression, which is a physical illness as whimsygirl said before.

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I'm going to make an appointment with a doctor to discuss meds. I'm so scared I'm going to break down and cry at work. Most times I'm able to get to the bathroom or leave the office before I start crying.

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[Leed]

Hi Hidesad ~ Bless your heart -- I'm sorry you feel so badly. It's a tough world.

You say that you are expected to do too much at work. I'm sure that's stressful. Can you ask your boss to ease up on some of the work, and give a bit of it to someone else? Or else give YOU someone to help you with it? Tell him that you've got just too much to do and you can't possibly get it ALL done!!! I would think that he'd understand. Ask him about it.
Plus you said that you're pretty hard on yourself and you expect alot of yourself --- a perfectionist. Well, dearheart, that's gotta stop. None of us is perfect, and we all tend to expect too much of ourselves but it CAN go to far where it becomes impossible to do. You've GOT to accept that you cannot do it all -- you've got to accept that you're only human and you cannot do all the things that you've been expecting yourself to do. You just can't do it all. Give yourself a break -- and in the evenings after work, do NOT work yourself half to death! In fact, make a pact with yourself -- don't do anything after work, unless it's ABSOLUTELY necessary and that doesn't mean scrubbing floors & painting walls. LOL If the laundry HAS to be done, that's one thing, but if it can wait until the weekend, LET IT WAIT. Evenings should be for resting after work!

Please start pampering yourself and stop the "super=human" stuff. You've got to ease up on yourself. I wish you the very best. God bless and PLEASE keep us posted, ok? Take care. Hugs, Lee

[carebirdy]

Perfectionism is so tough. It sets us up for constant failure, because we are so rarely perfect. Sometimes "good enough" is "good enough" and sometimes others don't even realize that we aren't perfect because they don't really see the difference between the "good enough" and perfect.
I relate to feeling like you have to put on an act at work. I fall into the trap of feeling like I have to seem happy, competent, and in control. It's really hard when you just want to curl up in a ball and cry. I actually took leave from work a few months ago for 3 weeks. That was huge for me.
I understand if you don't want to talk about your depression with your boss, but maybe you can make a meeting as just talk about feeling overloaded with work? Maybe mention that at least for the near future you need to have your load lightened.

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Thanks everyone. I'm really glad I found this sight.

Big part of my perfectionism is the need to escape criticism. I think what I am doing is trying to be perfect so I do not receive any negative feedback. the slightest criticism and I feel everyone is talking about what a loser I am. Defiantly something I need to continue to work on.

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