[Shadow-world]

Hmmm, I know the person I spoke to meant well but ... :
I shouldn't think I'm the only one who has problems, her sister has rheumatoid arthritis and there are people who haven't got a roof over their head and a job as I do.
My real concerns she laughed off... lack of relationship, mourning of the absence of a child, the disappointment in my futile hopes to be with someone in particular that I haven't been able to give up on for almost two years. I know she really tried to help, but somehow it sounds more as if I should feel guilty about voicing certain thoughts in my hopelessness.
Does anyone else get this from even well-meaning people or even friends?
In other words, our lives are so much better than some other people's lives and we should be thankful for it and not moan about things that don't seem that important?

It's not that I don't care for people who live in terrible conditions or are homeless etc, but it doesn't invalidate my feelings and perceptions.

I have the feeling that many people in the real world can't really grasp what clinical depression (paired with anxiety) is and what it means and that emotional pain can (almost) become unbearable. It is certainly debilitating as people on this forum will have experienced, but it seems almost impossible for an outsider to understand this.

[Leed]

Oh yes, I've experienced it. And heaven forbid you frown!!! Good grief, how dare you walk around lookiing sad!!! You should be ashamed of yourself !!! Why, think of the Afghanis' starving!! Think of poor President Obama and all his troubles. (ACK!)

If I have to listen to any of that garbage again, I swear I'll deck someone. I'm sorry I have disturbed your day by having depression, you outsiders!! Please forgive my faux pas! I'll go right home and dunk my head in the toilet for punishment! The idiots

[whimsygirl]

Hi Shadow......Ok, hearing this makes me seriously go crazy. There is no place in this world for judging someone else's struggles....none. I am so sorry that you have felt "judged" in that way. (((Big Hug))). God knows I know when you're suffering from all the hell that is depression it can be awfully hard to hold on to any perspective, but in my opinion anyone who would do so has serious problems of their own. Perhaps, though.....unlike you....they are not emotionally evolved enough to even recognize that....and sadly, they may never. You are a dear, brave person who fights for your survival, while at the same time always extending kindness to others, and no one has the right to hold you up to some kind of stupid "scale" of troubles! Sending warm thoughts ~whimsy

[Rohag]

Originally Posted by Leed

Oh yes, I've experienced it. And heaven forbid you frown!!! Good grief, how dare you walk around lookiing sad!!! You should be ashamed of yourself !!! Why, think of the Afghanis' starving!! Think of poor President Obama and all his troubles. (ACK!)

If I have to listen to any of that garbage again, I swear I'll deck someone. I'm sorry I have disturbed your day by having depression, you outsiders!! Please forgive my faux pas! I'll go right home and dunk my head in the toilet for punishment! The idiots

What Leed said...!

[jelly-bean]

Leed had it in a nutshell!