[tokiwartooth]

How do you stop thinking about someone that you're in love with? I love him so much, but I can't have him. It's breaking me apart. I'm depressed without having to think about him. I'm not even safe in my sleep because I dream about him constantly. I wake up crying. I don't know what to do. It's driving me insane. I'm so depressed I don't know what to do anymore. I feel like someone has shot a hole right through my heart and punched me in the stomach. It's like all the wind has been knocked out of me. God help me.

[SoupDragon]

(((tokiwartooth))) - I am sorry that things are hurting so much right now. I don't think it is easy to just stop thinking about someone you love so much, I think it just takes time. Walking always helps me with my troubled thoughts.

Soup

[Rohag]

Oh, this is difficult...

Though counter-intuitive, I observe that it is easier to stop thinking about something when you don't try to stop thinking about it. It seems the efforts to not think about something only contribute to strengthening the thought paths to the undesired subject.

[tokiwartooth]

I know last time I fell in love with someone, it took a long time to get over it. I dread that happening again. I can't stand the pain that he brings. But he's like an addiction. I can go see him when he's working and pretend like I'm just shopping now. I used to work for him. The thing is, though, that there are certain items that I need that are only sold at that store. So even if I didn't want to see him, I have to when I go in there. He's like a drug, and when I don't see him it's like going through withdrawals. Seeing him is like getting a fix. But it never lasts. Talking to him is even better, but it will never go anywhere. I just feel so fat and ugly sometimes, like even if I could have him, why would he like someone like me? Why would any sane man or woman like someone like me? I look at myself in the mirror and I hate the way I look. I've had plenty of ppl tell me I'm cute, attractive, pretty, beautiful, whatever, but I always feel like it's forced because they feel sorry for me. I have no idea whether or not they really do mean it because my views are so screwed up.