[cmra817]

I'm going through marital problems. I really don't know what to do anymore. I tried talking to him but he won't talk back. He told me I no longer make him happy... then the next day he told me that he won't be happy without me. I'm so torn inside. i'm trying so hard to fix whatever problem we might have but it seems like he doesn't care anymore. I feel like i'm being dragged on. I just want him to be honest with me. If he no longer wants to do anything with me, then he should tell me. My heart is torn up... i want to get rid of this feeling. I want a drug that can numb all my emotions. I just want to float through this process without a care.

[walkswithspiritbear]

((((((((((cmra817)))))) welcome to pc..
I am so sorry that you are having troubles in your marriage, been there and still go there on occassion. It is so hard to get men to talk about feelings. They have such a hard time relating that way.. I see you are new here.. keep posting there are many really great people here who have big hearts.. many who can relate to what you are going through.. I hope to see you post again and soon.. take care until I see you again. Linda

Hi and welcome to PC. Can you try walking away from the smog that's got you in this emotional tailspin? I don't mean leaving him or anything like that- I mean refocusing your mind and heart on something else that doesn't make you emotional like this. Something like a hobby or a project.
I know that's easier said then done but sometimes I think we can make things worst by fussing too much over something.
You and your husband both sound so confused. I think you may be involved too tightly in this emotionally to have a clear perspective and somehow he's getting sucked up by the momentum of it.
You know cmra,he's responsible for his own happiness, not you. Don't let him put that on you. That is unfair for him to have said that to you. To me, that just says "I'm not even going to try-I give up and blame it all on you for not making me happy"
(((((cmra))))))

[(JD)]

Welcome to PC...sorry you need us Sounds like a good time to seek couple's therapy... while you are both in flux about the situation, perhaps in time to change things and make it a great relationship! TC

[ozzie]

Welcome to the forums. You've come to a good place to talk. Do you think you and your husband would be interested in some couples therapy? We've tried it a few times and it did help some.........we still have plenty of problems though.