[WiShEs.Of.ThE.hEaRt]

I have had so much stress lately. I just found out that it is a possibility my bf could be going to jail for something he didn't do. I have no idea what to do. He seems so upset and the other night he tried to contact his mum (who he doesn't live with and barley sees or talks to) well she didn't answer her phone. She tried to call again and again, well it turns out he called her boyfriend and shes back in jail. I feel so bad for him right now. And I don't know what to do. He's getting his papers in the mail soon for court n I don't know if I should go or if he even wants me too. I don't really want to ask either because I'm not sure if I wanna go. His dad has treated him like a piece of crap since he was really young, so I'm really suprised his dad got him a lawyer. I don't know what to do

[Leed]

I'm sure he could use some support, so why don't you ask him if he wants you there. No, it's not a very pleasant thing to go to court, but that's the least you could do for him if he wants you there. So ask him -- maybe he'll say no, and then you won't have to worry about it. But really -- you should be there for him if he wants you there. It's not like it's going to take 4 days or anything. See what he says. Good luck.

[Kate9843123]

you should be there. we cant avoid everything nasty in relationships. is this plesant? no. are relationships about support even when it isnt so great? yes. You are strong enough to be there for him. You don't have to be a rock, it is ok to have emotions when you are there, but you should be there- especially if he wants you there-- because if you dont go, first of all it makes it look like you dont support him and is that the message you want to send, and secondly you are either in the relationship on a serious level or not, and if you are then you have to step up during the tough times for the other person to support them. whether he says so or not, he needs you.
i am sorry you both are dealing with this. Good Luck