Will anyone be alone on Thanksgiving like myself?

Just wondering if anyone will be alone on Thanksgiving pondering what to be thankful for. I'm having serious marital problems with my husband due to my mental illness so he said he will be spending it with his family. My brother will be with his wife's family, haven't talked to him during this bout of depression, and my dad will probably be with them too. I haven't been invited but would not want to be around a bunch of happy people anyway...it's just too hard. Anyone else going to be alone for thanksgiving? It will be my first time alone, strange but I'm not upset - not yet anyway - because I'm just too miserable. Thanksgiving was always my family's absolute favorite holiday growing up but we don't spend it together since my mom and family friends passed away. Getting older is so hard, coupled with depression - so awful...so unfair.

You are definitely not alone Many people struggle through the holidays but suffer in silence. That is one of the many reasons why I appreciate PC so much ... we are able to share our feelings surrounding this time of year

Do you have a T that you can speak with regarding your feelings and the events that are taking place in your life? Also, the loss of your mother and friends is so painful. I am really sorry. That is huge in itself. And your marriage troubles add to another loss. You mentioned this holiday was a fave when your family was all together but sadly things have changed. That could be a definite trigger for depression.

As far as spending the time alone, I will be (kind of) alone as well. Well, just me and my cat I prefer his company! My family is horrible and my fiance passed away, along with a couple of close friends so I opt out of attending any functions.

I hope you will continue to post and let us know how you are doing. You are not alone and we care and many can relate.

PC means Partay Central on the holidays - don't worry, you'll have plenty of company here!

I was alone last Thanksgiving, it was my first time. Thanksgiving was big around my family too, when my Mom was living. Anymore I just try and let it pass by and once it does it is alright. Let the Par tAY begin hankster! I will be right here with ya!

Yay! We do do alright here

My boyfriend will be home, but he will be working part of the day and gets pretty pouty around Thanksgiving so it is best just to let it pass. I can't afford to get to my parent's house this year. I'm hoping I can get there for Christmas. I'll make sure to check in here.

I, too, shall be spending Thanksgiving (as well as Christmas) alone ...

Yes, this will be my second Thanksgiving alone. It is hard, and sad, but I don't have any family or friends to spend it with....not that I try to make friends anymore. I have always seemed to be the giver in the friendship and get nothing back in return and then when I would share my feelings of depression, they would always leave which only reinforces my feelings of abandonment. I agree getting older is hard but what to do. I'm sorry your husband has chosen to not be with you this thanksgiving and support you, I hope he changes his mind.

It will be me and my bf unless he goes to his families house. I don't really care for them and have no desire to be with them. I'm always depressed when the holidays come. I hate them with a passion and can't wait for them to be gone. My mom and dad are deceased. Since my mom died my siblings and i have had a strained pretty much non existing relationship. I don't really have close friends anymore. Everyone is doing their own thing. I have been alone before. My bf has gone elsewhere before and left me home alone knowing how depressed the holidays are for me but i guess i shouldn't make him stay home if he wants to be around his family. The thing is they don't really have a big celebration but he just rather be around them then me. They don't celebrate holidays like my family does. Anyway i probably won't cook either so maybe we will go out if he doesn't bail. Last year i had a bagel because i didn't feel up to cooking and my bf and his brother watched movies and talked and laughed the whole day. They ate can food and could care less about thanksgiving. I stayed in the bedroom and cryed so disgusted. My bf didn't think he did anything wrong. I usually try to find something funny to watch on TV. I pray we all can just get through the day quickly and without pain. By the way my bf and i are basically roomates we are not getting along at all either. My prayers are with you.

Thank you so much for sharing with me.

Here's an NPR piece on spending the holiday's alone. http://www.npr.org/2012/11/22/165567...o-thanksgiving

Hi Livebythesea.....I'm so sorry about all that you're dealing with, wish I could help. I've spent every holiday for the past 7 years with just my cats, ever since my stepsister decided she did not like me anymore and evidently convinced the rest of the step-family to go along with whatever she told them. As both my Mom and stepfather are dead, I have no kids, husband, etc., my Holidays are primarily just days to get through. Just adding my name to the previous posters, but no....you are certainly not the only one. I hope that some kind of comfort comes your way as soon as possible. Hugs ~whimsy

I have been alone on thanksgiving and christmas for a lot of years. Because I am agoraphobic. Eventually people forgot about me. This year was worse. Because some people I love very much didnt even care enough to wish my a happy thanksgiving. That made it more painful than any other year. Brought up even more of those feelings.....

Thank you so much for sharing whimsygirl and sunsetrise. It's hard to write these posts but I truly am thankful for those of you who write and share such painful things. Somehow it does help that we're not alone. I just wish we were all closer so maybe we could spend it together like Hamster said!