Can't seem to get out of this funk! What to do?

I have struggled with depression on and off for about 10 years since my husband and son were killed in a car accident. But I have always been able to climb out of it somehow. Since March of last year, I have been unable to leave my house, or my bed for that matter. I have no friends, no family, I am gaining weight at n alarming rate because I basically not move, I have gone to hospitals, tried medications, read books, gone to church, joined groups...nothing seems to stick..i have a history of being treated poorly by people in and around my life so I have resorted to seluding myself to my room...what do I do know? Where do I seek help next? I'm so terrified and embarrassed to leave my house for people to see wht I have become but at the same time I am terrified that if I dont get help soon I will succumb to my thoughts of the easy way out?

Hello & Welcome, DDPP4!

Your psyche has suffered repeated crushing blows. Your condition is serious enough that you will probably require active assistance of some sort to get to a more tolerable place.

What have you already tried - doctors, therapists, social/community workers?

Sorry, I should have read your post with greater attention. If you decide to seek any type of counseling, tell them this -- the details of everything you've tried that did not help. Knowing what doesn't work puts you that much closer to something that might help.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I've struggled (and sometimes still struggle) with isolation, and I found myself at my top weight a while back because of it. I slept a lot and didn't feel like doing anything. I joined Overeaters anonymous online to help with the weight, and it's made an improvement in my eating and therefore weight loss.

Regarding the depression, I'd suggest a counselor that deals with grief and depression.

The death of your husband and child is a devastating blow. Somethings we grieve for the rest of our life. I lost a nephew to sudden death. People are well intentioned but sometimes offer advice that isn't all that helpful. In seeing death I also saw life in the sense that life itself is sacred. I try to remember and give thanks for his life and the part he played in mine. Good memories are a comfort.

I am so sorry for what you have been through. From reading about everything you have tried so far I can see what a brave and strong person you are. Its notable how determined you are to get better. You already said that you have tried therapy and joined groups but I was wondering if you can try find someone or a group of people; perhaps with experiences similar to yours whom you can talk to. Being around people is in any case better than trying to fight on your own. Have you tried naturopathy therapies, health resort centers, self-help groups..? Maybe none of those things work but you never know until you have tried them and you might end up meeting some new friends or getting inspiration/motivation in a way. Maybe you have just not met the right kind of therapist/group yet. I think as long as you have the strength to get out of the house it would be good to keep trying out everything that is out there, in the hope to find something that works specifically for you. I hope you will feel better soon.

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I did not hear you say that you tried counseling. Have you? One on one therapy might be helpful. You really need to talk to someone who understands what you're going through. Some therapists will even talk to you over the phone if its hard for you to get out.

My sympathies to you on your devastating loss.

I've heard of psychiatrists making home visits (it's rare but possible). I would seek out a specialty psychiatric hospital if there is one near you. I'm in an intensive outpatient program for depression and anxiety and I love it. I'm in a 'volunteer program' in that the people who are there aren't court ordered so I'm not wasting my time listening to people who are forced to be there because they were arrested for drugs etc... It's people who want to get better. I hope you find the treatment you deserve and need. If you have to go call some hospitals and do an intake over the phone and see if you qualify for some type of outpatient treatment.