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Old Dec 13, 2012, 06:01 PM
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....sometimes I find isolating quite comfortable...
well actually...most of the time
I agree, sometimes it is so lovely to just shut the world out and do your own thing I have to fight the urge to completely isolate myself from the world though, i spend alot of time in doors and it makes it even harder when i have to socialise
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Old Dec 13, 2012, 06:11 PM
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Thank you Enchanted for sharing. You have put perfectly into words my situation as well. Only those we care so much for can send us into this downward spiral. If only we could turn our emotions off and keep it moving. Stay strong my friend I think we have found friends here who understand .

Thank you for your support
I am sorry that you have experienced this too, we should not have to be worried about our loved ones abusing and hurting us, it seems sometimes they take us for granted, thinking they can mistreat us and get away with it because we are family, but this is the reason they should not mistreat us, family seems to have lost all meaning to some. I hope you find some peace and understanding and good advise here
If you ever want to talk please dont hold back
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Old Dec 14, 2012, 08:39 AM
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It is really hard to find good in this society. The world isn't black and white, it's a mixture of both and sometimes good people aren't so good. I am to a certain extent a very good person, but I know that I am selfish and introverted and shy away from friends and family. Because of this I hurt them.
But more and more I've noticed good in the world. I appreciate moments with my friends and family that are "good". In a way I think I influence and instill others to be good because of this. Appreciation feels weird, it's like joy and pride and awe all mixed together, and it inspires me to bring this feeling toward other people. Whenever I notice good, I make sure to tell people about it. I compliment people, I tell them I appreciate them, that I miss them! People have really reacted well towards this, people I've never gotten along with like my brother and father. It mores than just compliments and appreciation, but more just never giving up on the person and focusing on good things that have happened.

And the mean ones out there? > well there's nothing you can do but be kind, and hope that it's just a bad time in their life!
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Old Dec 14, 2012, 12:30 PM
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Reading your thread it seems like you are a good person and trying to be a better person, i think thats all we can do, try our best to be one of the good guys, a lot of people are not that open about who they are and refuse to take responsibility for their actions,you seem to know yourself and you are trying and i think that is a great thing
Thank you. I am trying as hard as I can.
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Old Dec 14, 2012, 02:40 PM
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It is really hard to find good in this society. The world isn't black and white, it's a mixture of both and sometimes good people aren't so good. I am to a certain extent a very good person, but I know that I am selfish and introverted and shy away from friends and family. Because of this I hurt them.
But more and more I've noticed good in the world. I appreciate moments with my friends and family that are "good". In a way I think I influence and instill others to be good because of this. Appreciation feels weird, it's like joy and pride and awe all mixed together, and it inspires me to bring this feeling toward other people. Whenever I notice good, I make sure to tell people about it. I compliment people, I tell them I appreciate them, that I miss them! People have really reacted well towards this, people I've never gotten along with like my brother and father. It mores than just compliments and appreciation, but more just never giving up on the person and focusing on good things that have happened.

And the mean ones out there? > well there's nothing you can do but be kind, and hope that it's just a bad time in their life!

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.....but I know that I am selfish and introverted and shy away from friends and family. Because of this I hurt
them.
I hear what U R saying..I just wish they could understand and not take offense. It would be so nice to just be excepted for who U R for a change.

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Whenever I notice good, I make sure to tell people about it. I compliment people, I tell them I appreciate them,...
Thank you for saying this. I also make the effort to express appreciation to people who have shown a kindness to myself or someone else. But as a rule, it seems to annoy them. They get turned off by it somehow. It occurred to me that perhaps it was my physical appearance, because I am only 5'8" and don't speak with a deep baritone voice or because they think I am ugly or perhaps I remind them of someone else that they dislike or maybe they are just preoccupied. But after much observation, I find that even in a forum such as this one, where I am virtually invisible, I still get the same reaction.
One thing is for certain. There is something or things about me that people find repulsive. Just haven't figured it out yet.
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Old Dec 17, 2012, 06:00 AM
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Thank you for saying this. I also make the effort to express appreciation to people who have shown a kindness to myself or someone else. But as a rule, it seems to annoy them. They get turned off by it somehow. It occurred to me that perhaps it was my physical appearance, because I am only 5'8" and don't speak with a deep baritone voice or because they think I am ugly or perhaps I remind them of someone else that they dislike or maybe they are just preoccupied. But after much observation, I find that even in a forum such as this one, where I am virtually invisible, I still get the same reaction.
One thing is for certain. There is something or things about me that people find repulsive. Just haven't figured it out yet.
Do you think it could be that you're male? That might make a difference, maybe men need to go about compliments in a different way.
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