[shortandcute]

On my (ex)Facebook account, there were some people that had posted some of their political views on my wall; one of the statements, i agreed with and so I pushed the "like" button. Well, my stepmother-who was on my friends list--sent me a really nasty message about my "inflammatory political statements," and how "hateful" and mean and nasty I was being; and that I was very hurtful and that I was alienating people from me! Oh I was so mad--I was just agreeing with someone!
I sent her back a message saying that all I did was agree with someone, and that if she was going to get after me, she needed to get after everyone else who posted anything political. I also told her that if someone was going to feel "alienated" because I did't agree with them, then that was there problem, not mine!
Then the very next day, I deactiviated my FB account. oH, I am so upset right now--and is making my depression worse. I have had this my whole life; my family has always been very opinionated--to the point where its caused damage--but as soon as I had an opinion, well, that was a different story! The same for when I stood up for myself. All of a sudden, I was mean, nasty, bad-tempered, argumentive--my oldest sister beat the tar out of me when I was 20 because I had the audacity to have my own opinion!
I AM SO SICK OF THIS!!!!! I'm sick of my family treating me this way and I am sick of Facebook! And now my stepmother is probably going to "tattle" on me to my oldest sister and my son about how "mean" I am!!!!!!! She has done that before--once when my dad accused me of "judging" my mom (to whom he was no longer even married), I defended and explained myself. I found out my mistake that, afterwards, my stepmom had written a very lengthy letter to my son that I was unforgiving and mean and nasty and the problem was that I just had "issues." She didn't even have the gawl to tell ME that-she went to my son about it and put him in the middle.

[Corvid]

*sigh* that stinks. I'm sorry she's gotta be like that. But being sick of facebook isn't so bad - I'm addicted. I also post and set it so family can't see sometimes heh. You are not mean, she's overreacting and being a bia, I'm sorry :-(

[Corvid]

And putting your son in the middle is totally out of line. *She* is out of line. She has no power over you that you don't give her.

[Leed]

Where is your DAD when all this is going on?? Doesn't HE stand up for you? Or does he go wimpy over her, and not say anything? He should at LEAST keep your sister from pounding the daylights out of you, which I think is pretty elementary at this stage of the game! Afterall, you're ADULTS! isn't having physical fights a bit childish???

Your Father needs to STEP UP and put his WIFE in her place -- which is NOT humiliating you!!! She has NO business getting involved in your life or "disciplining you" for God's sakes!! You're an adult, and you can THINK AND DO whatever you want! Tell her to go to HE#@. Why do you put up with this?? You're not a child -- stand up for yourself and put an end to this! You can't be walked over unless you lay down.

Your step mother doesn't understand where her "place" is. She's ONLY your father's wife. That's all. You girls are adults. You don't need disciplining anymore. She needs to stay OUT of your lives. Talk to your Dad about it, unless he's just useless.

Best of luck and God bless. I wish you the very best. Hugs, Lee

[tigerlily84]

Corvid and Leed are right; any power that she has over you is what you give to her. Don't take that abuse, from your stepmom, your sister, or anyone else for that matter. Your stepmom sounds a lot like mine. Just because they're your family doesn't give them the right to treat you that way. Hopefully you'll be able to get away from them so you can raise your son in a more healthy environment. Best wishes to you.

[oceancries]

awww You're not mean. You have a say and very rightly so!

[shortandcute]

Originally Posted by Leed

Where is your DAD when all this is going on?? Doesn't HE stand up for you? Or does he go wimpy over her, and not say anything? He should at LEAST keep your sister from pounding the daylights out of you, which I think is pretty elementary at this stage of the game! Afterall, you're ADULTS! isn't having physical fights a bit childish???

Your Father needs to STEP UP and put his WIFE in her place -- which is NOT humiliating you!!! She has NO business getting involved in your life or "disciplining you" for God's sakes!! You're an adult, and you can THINK AND DO whatever you want! Tell her to go to HE#@. Why do you put up with this?? You're not a child -- stand up for yourself and put an end to this! You can't be walked over unless you lay down.

Your step mother doesn't understand where her "place" is. She's ONLY your father's wife. That's all. You girls are adults. You don't need disciplining anymore. She needs to stay OUT of your lives. Talk to your Dad about it, unless he's just useless.

Best of luck and God bless. I wish you the very best. Hugs, Lee

Well, my dad is pretty useless--in fact, he loves when my stepmother comes to his rescue! He is very abusive to her but has somehow twisted her mind into thinking he is a wonderful man. And I do stand up for myself, but then everyone gives me a bunch of crap about it--like what my step mother has done and my sister pounding on me! As far as my dad, he wasnt there when that happened. He basically doesn't want anything to do with us. He physically abused my older siblings and younger brother, sexually abused his daughters, and mentally and emotionally abused all of us. And now he doesnt want anything to do with us. Oh, occasionally he'll make an appearance to look a good dad, but that's it. He's got my stepmother convinced that he is a poor little victim of his unforgiving children.

[Leed]

Well, then sweetie, I feel sorry for you. You have GOT to get out of there as soon as you can -- take your child and LEAVE for your sake and your child's. You don't want your child seeing you being treated like that!

I wish you didn't have to deal with all this. Do you have somewhere you can go, like to a relative's or friend's house for awhile? This household is NOT good for you.

I wish you the very best my friend. Please keep us posted, okay? God bless. Hugs, Lee

[shortandcute]

well, my son is 24. and my step mother lives in another state--so moving isnt gonna change it. besides i own my home so its not like i can just pick and move. besides, staying with a relative is not an option.
I do pretty much keep my family at a distance for this very reason--things are not as bad as they used to be, but my step-mom sending me that message on facebook really triggered me.

[Corvid]

It's good that you're not physically near them, I think. Feeling any better? She's obviously not right in the head, let the feeling pass, if you can. Just don't talk to them, you know?