[Thor_Odinson]

After yet another argument with the wife the other day I finally said to myself, "I'll just make an appointment with the doctor and tell him to up my meds until I'm numb and can move through like like that." I didn't want to be a drooling idiot in the corner - I'm saving that for when I can collect some vacation time from work - but enough to where the kids can go crazy, the wife can yell and accuse, and the boss can kick me in the junk without me losing my mind.

That's when I suspected there might be a little bit of a problem...

I don't want to dial up the meds every time I feel out of control. I want to get rid of this demon, or whatever it is, so I can live a normal life.

Yeah, how do I do that?

[Doingmybest]

I wish I had an answer for you Thor. You sound very fed up and I can relate, I lost it earlier I was pretty sure I pushed my husband over the edge and I drank until I couldn't see straight...have you and the wife tried counseling?

[ManicD]

Are you talking about being angry?
Man, did I used to have a temper. I would be out of control. I realized that when I was angry at someone or something, it was because something was wrong and I didn't like it. So I would get angry and use my anger/energy to fix the problem or control the problem. But I made more problems as I released too much energy/anger and I would lose control of myself.

There is a short moment when you realize you are feeling anger or energy and that's your chance to tell yourself to stop. You now have two options. First option is to forget what's wrong, let it roll off you. Deal with it later and only deal with it as slow as possible so that the object or person knows you are in control. Walk slow, talk slow, do everything slowly.

The second option is right after you feel the anger/energy building up is to again think the word stop. But this time when you think stop, you take a step back in your mind and look at the situation from the other person's shoes. Then look at the situation from your point of view again. And the last thing to do is look at the situation as if someone else was watching the whole thing. Now, you take control of the situation with your words only and make a compromise or work out a deal. Talking just slightly slower than normal helps. Asking questions also helps.

[Leed]

Hi Thor ~ Have you tried therapy? Believe me, it sure helped me. When my anger and emotions were out of control, I actually admitted myself to a mental hospital. I stayed for 2 weeks, and while there I saw a psychiatrist daily, and had group therapy every day too.

After i got out I saw the psychiatrist weekly for a good long time, and then monthly for a year. Then she retired.

I then saw a psychologist and she was amazing and I made huge progress. I stayed with her for quite awhile. There is where I got my "power" back.

You can get yours back too. Get some counseling!!! You can control your emotions & anger, and keep your wife from accusing you too! LOL God bless and please take care. Hugs, Lee